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Be a Better ME ( YOU) Challenge -Day 1~Out with the old

by Deborah Cruz

It’s day 1 of my Be a Better Me Challenge. I did promise a vlog but as I am deathly ill, coughing up a small piece of my lung and sounding like an old smoker, I will save you the horror of seeing all that and do it sometime in the very near future ( as soon as my voice sounds like a lady again).

Being completely in the spirit of being a Better Me, I’m going to start with the most obvious and simplest challenge. Banish the yoga pants and ponytails. Maybe you are not guilty of this transgression, though from what I see at morning drop off I know I am not the only one, so if this does not apply to you, good for you! You are already ahead of me!

I have a habit of changing from my pajamas into my yoga pants, a t-shirt ( or sweatshirt depending on the time of year), and pulling the hair back in a ponytail. This is not a good look. It’s done solely for convenience and under the guise of good intentions. I figure putting on the workout clothes is the first step towards actually getting my ass to work out. But in all honesty. more often than not, I never make it that far…unless you count running errands, wiping asses, and cooking meals exercise. I wish! I’d be like super hot, in great shape Mommy IF that were the case.

So, our first challenge is to banish those damn yoga pants and ponytails.Come on, except for when actually working out, no grown woman should be rocking a ponytail. At our ages, it should only be for practical purposes because it is certainly not fashionable. Today, I ask that you pull the ponytail down, and throw on a pair of jeans in place of those yoga pants. I promise you will feel more put together and more attractive. You’ve heard the saying “Dress for success“?  Well, just because we don’t work outside the home does that mean we need to look  unsuccessful? What do you think of when you think of how a successful woman dresses? What would you think if you saw a woman in her yoga pants and ponytail everyday? See where I am going with this. When I dress in my yoga pants and ponytail, I may be comfortable in my clothes but I’m not necessarily comfortable in my skin. I feel like other women are looking at me thinking “Look at her, she may as well have stayed in her jammies!” It looks like I’ve given up, I’m depressed, or I’m lazy. Either way, I am none of these.So,why in the world would I want my clothes to say that I am?

I used to be the girl who took 2 hours to get ready. It may have been vain, obsessive,and excessive but I always felt beautiful! I left the house with my head held high and I knew I looked good. I felt good about myself. I was proud of how I looked and how I carried myself in the world. I had crazy confidence. Obviously, none of us has 2 hours to dedicate to getting ready any more but 20 minutes for fine tuning our look can go a long way. If you actually actively fix yourself up and plan your outfit, you will feel like a completely different person.Don’t we deserve the same amount of attention to detail that we put into our children’s looks? Lately, my girls look like little models and I look like their crazed nanny. What kind of example am I setting? I’m important, so are you!Now go banish the yoga pants, if you need them put them on right before you workout and take them off immediately after you have completed your workout. They are called active wear for a reason.Now, go get your hottness on!

Link up and let me know how today’s challenge went for you!What did you decide needed to be banished to help you dress to feel like a woman and not just someone’s chauffeur/nanny/maid/cook/girl friday?

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Kelly 2010/09/01 - 11:14 am

I work outside the home, so during the week that's not an issue for me, however I will come to work without makeup on, and I can't tell you how bad I feel all day if I don't take the time to apply my makeup. I know ti sounds vain, but it's horrible. And on the weekends I've been known to wear my jammies all day (if I don't have to leave the house)

Jill 2010/09/01 - 12:29 pm

Thanks for stopping by and leaving me a sweet comment today! I use to be a model before I stayed home with my girls as well as a teacher/administrator. So saying things have changed is an understatement! LOL But I wouldn't change being with my girls for anything. I still put makeup on as soon as I get out of bed. Although I don't dress in the most stylish clothes anymore because my kids do! LOL Thanks for posting this, I think we all can relate to it sometimes. Have a wonderful day!

Jessica @ Barefoot by the Sea 2010/09/01 - 1:04 pm

Great challange and fabulous post! I have a neighbor who always looks amazing – she has a 5 year old and a 12 year old and I've often wondered how she does it. Because of your encouragement, I'll go out of my comfort zone and opt for skirts over yoga pants and ban the sweatshirts for a while but I cannot give up my ponytail…..I love it!

Elizabeth Flora Ross 2010/09/01 - 2:45 pm

Oh how this made me laugh! I hate the ponytail look, but pretty much have it going on every day. For so many reasons, not the least of which is the ungodly heat here in Florida. I do put on makeup and dress in real clothes every day. I reserve the t-shirt and yoga pants for only the worst of days. But I recently saw a picture of myself from a b-day party my daughter attended, and I looked so awful in my stupid Mommy ponytail! Next to me was a mom of infant twins, and she looked fabulous! If she can do it, so can I!

I will link up on Friday in response to this post!

Robin 2010/09/01 - 2:54 pm

I don't think I have it in me to write two blogs a day. A better me and a letter BUT I promise to read yours and comment. I do agree that what you have just described is SUCH an EASY habit to fall into. Have you ever watched TLC's WHAT NOT TO WEAR? If so, you won't feel so bad. Mommies all over have fallen into this dreadful habit. I know this b/c it has been recorded by TLC and they got some wardrobe help from Clinton and Stacie. Another thing that you are totally on target about is the feeling that goes along with feeling put together. If you feel sloppy and/or dumpy, it reflects itself in everything you do. If you can take that extra five minutes and pick out something flattering to wear and do your hair, you will feel 100x better. What a mood changer!

the cape on the corner 2010/09/01 - 3:35 pm

i agree with the previous comment about what not to wear. they say that changing out of sweats and tees help you to feel better about you. however, i think mommying is pretty hard work. and i don't even have kids of my own. so if someone is in work out gear b/c that's what gets the job done, i'm fine with that.

i do a sort of two tiered change into pjs. when i come home, i put on my unwinding clothes. not quite pjs. then the pjs go on when it's time for bed. i don't know why i like to do this, but i feel like this gradual process prepares me for whatever lies ahead during the evening!

i really appreciate your comments, and am so glad you've come by the cape on the corner!

Mama Karen 2010/09/01 - 5:32 pm

What a great challange! I am a pony tail offender so easy just to throw it up in one ahhhhhhh!

~J 2010/09/01 - 9:58 pm

I'm sporting a ponytail right now…lol. Definitely an offender…but not often…I love dressing up and being girly, albeit the kids don't always make that so easy..this is a great challenge!

Boobies 2010/09/01 - 9:58 pm

I'm sporting a ponytail right now…lol. Definitely an offender…but not often…I love dressing up and being girly, albeit the kids don't always make that so easy..this is a great challenge!

Anonymous 2010/09/01 - 11:22 pm

When I slap on my yoga pants I know it's workout time.

Mary 2010/09/02 - 7:53 am

Good girl getting rid of those yoga pants! This sounds pretty similar to the whole Mom Sexy thing that I do on my blog!

The Mommyologist 2010/09/02 - 7:53 am

Good girl getting rid of those yoga pants! This sounds pretty similar to the whole Mom Sexy thing that I do on my blog!

Elizabeth Flora Ross 2010/09/03 - 8:03 am

I came back to link up since I wrote a post about this, but the linky was closed. 🙁 You can check out the post here:



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