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Don’t Hate Me because I’m Beautiful

by Deborah Cruz

There’s a giant collective social media gasp going on about Jenny McCarthy’s tweeted pregnancy weight photo. I think most people either love Jenny McCarthy for her outspoken and witty personality or they hate her for her annoyingly good looks. I, personally, think she has always been hilarious and I love anybody who can take themselves with a grain of salt. Sure she’s absolutely gorgeous, but hey everybody can’t be perfect. We’ve all got our burdens to bear and her’s just so happens to be that she is just too damn good looking.

So, while I’ve been visiting all of my favorite places in social media this week (Momversation, HerSay and The Stir) I’ve come across the photo of her weighing 200+ pounds multiple times and I have one thing to say …. You go girl with your bad ass self! As a fellow Mommy, how could I not love someone who is a self proclaimed Mommy Warrior and Cellulite Killer?

Let’s be honest, how many of us would disclose, little lone tweet, photos of ourselves in less than our peak physical condition? Hell, isn’t that part of why we love social media so much? We can hide behind our computers and only release what we want to the general public..after it’s been cropped above the waist ( so you don’t see our big Twitter asses), Photoshopped (so that you can’t see all the dark circles under our eyes from no sleep from crazy kids) or at the very least, we can put on our make-up and hair ( no one needs to know we are wearing our pajama bottoms with spit up on them in our vlogs).

The Weight of Imperfection

I’ve seen our “baby bump” photos we share with one another, they are normally the most flattering ones we can find. Who wants to admit they looked like they ate for four? But I think it takes guts and/or balls to be honest about your authentic self. We live in a world that is so perfect-body obsessed and body image twisted that we all run around trying to keep up with the imaginary, Photoshopped Joneses. *News Flash..This Just In…THOSE FUCKERS DON’T EXIST! During pregnancy, our body is not our own and we have to relinquish some control and accept, to a degree, that we can not be a flawless size zero while growing a human. I know it’s hard…how I know.

When I think of Jenny McCarthy, I think of this

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Jenny McCarthy, Pregnancy weight,

Image via Jason Winslow/Splash News

I only think Jenny McCarthy is more awesome for losing all that weight after gaining it during pregnancy. Hell, I only gained 18 pounds with each pregnancy but I had already gained 50 with the marriage. I lost all the baby weight by the time I walked out of the hospital with my baby in my arms, but that marriage weight? That’s something entirely different, 12 years later and I’m still trying to lose that.

Forget about the Weight

I commend Jenny McCarthy for showing us all that she is human. In doing so, she’s become a super hero to me. Thank you for being one bad ass honest Mommy!

Let’s all take a cue from Jenny and release ourselves from the shackles of the myth of perfection. Be the you that makes you happy. Own it! Love yourself honestly and unconditionally; the world will follow suit. Good, bad, ugly, overweight, or under weight.[/fusion_builder_column][/fusion_builder_row][/fusion_builder_container]

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16 comments

Leighann 2011/07/27 - 10:24 am

GO GIRL!
I love that Jenny McCarthy did that.
I only ever had the balls to take one belly shot during my pregnancy.

Next time will be different.

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Truthful Mommy 2011/07/27 - 11:36 am

Oh I took shots but they are hard copies and my scanner is packed away ( for the move). I need to share. Mine are funny, there is one with me the day before I was induced with a Leopard print duster w/ fur around the neck. Yes! I am crazy like that. What the hell was I thinking? It must have been all that trying to get the baby out love making that had my brain jarred lose:) Of course, now that I’ve told you about it..I;m sure your imagination is laughing it’s ass off:) XO

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Lisa 2011/07/27 - 10:53 am

I do like Jenny for her whitty ways and sharp sense of humour and I applaud her for her honesty about raising a special needs child.

I don’t think any celebrity should get a pat on the back for losing pregnancy weight bc simply they are not the average household mom. Maybe she felt free to gain 50 pounds for her pregnancies bc she knew she had a well paid for back up system in place after she gave birth.
Its a celebrities job to be thin and sexually appealing. So they have money to hire a nutritionist to make a menu for them, a chef to cook it for them, a personal trainer to make sure they exercise 6 days/week, and a nanny or nannies to watch their kids so they can exercise for that hour to 2 hours undisturbed. They also have a housekeeper to do all the cleaning in their house.
I am pregnant with baby #2 and I am being super cautious with the weight gain bc I still hadn’t dropped the weight from the first one. I am a full time working mom with a shift working husband and a house, toddler, and 2 animals to take care of. I am lucky if I get a moment to have a bath in peace let alone and hour to exercise. I have to schedule days in advance and hire a babysitter if I want to hit the gym.

I think not only is society making body image a problem they are also making women feel guilty bc we can’t be super mommies like Jennie McCarthy.

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Truthful Mommy 2011/07/27 - 11:30 am

OH I am fully aware of how hard it is for us regular non celebrity Mommies to find the time and/or energy to lose the weight. Of course, if we had the money to have all the help it would be easier. What impressed me about Jenny is that she shared the photo that she did actually gain the weight in the first place. Not that she lost it..thought really that is pretty impressive.
It’s overwhelming gaining the weight and trying to lose it can break us down sometimes.Believe me I’ve had more than my tears of frustration tears shed over not having the time /energy to get back into my peak condition. Honestly, my girls are 4 and 6 and I am looking forward to having 3 days a week when they will both be in school for a few hours and I can try and focus on getting back into shape. It;s so hard, because when we have kids, everything we do takes tie away from something else we need to be doing. It;s a crazy world when working out feels like a luxury:) Stay tough mama. You are a super mommy. You sound like you have your hands full and a half. COngrats on baby #2!

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Amy ~ Eat. Live. Laugh. Shop. 2011/07/27 - 1:43 pm

I hadn’t seen that pic of Jenny, but LOVE it!!!! Motherhood provides a huge dose of humility on many fronts. I’m so glad someone in the limelight is able to acknowledge that fact in such a public way.

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Allie 2011/07/27 - 1:56 pm

I think as women we are too hard on ourselves about our weight. Sure, there is a “healthy” weight and I am all for that. And don’t get me wrong, just once in my life I would love to be stick thin. I am loosing that battle everyday. Unfortunately, some people judge others by how much they weigh. Sad. Like you said, I don’t look at Jenny so much as someone who gained or lost weight, I look at her as a women with a battle, a sense of humor and someone with honesty. Whether she is overweight or not, I still see her that way.

All I strive for is a healthy mind and body, the rest is all in the ice cream.

~Allie

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Galit Breen 2011/07/27 - 2:46 pm

I love what she did on twitter, and I LOVE what you did here! XO

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Deb 2011/07/29 - 2:15 pm

All worded out at the moment, but I did want to second this!

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Tracy 2011/07/27 - 2:52 pm

I have to admit: I wasn’t a huge fan of Jenny McCarthy UNTIL seeing that picture. It somehow made her more real. More accesible. More down-to-earth. If I have to see another picture of Jessica Alba or Selma Blair looking like the most stylish, perfectly bohemian pregnant ladies on earth I will die. I’ll eat a pint of ice cream first, and THEN die. Kudos to Jenny. Great post!

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NotJustAnotherJennifer 2011/07/27 - 3:38 pm

Love, love, love that she’s owning it! Yay! And thank you for posting abotu itt

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Truthful Mommy 2011/07/28 - 9:55 am

Thanks sweetie. I think she is awesome for being real about it and NOT trying to perpetuate the myth of perfection!

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Marta 2011/07/27 - 4:56 pm

You’re absolutely right and I love it! I can’t even articulate how right you are. I beat myself up about my weight all the time and loved being pregnant because I could justify having McDonalds without having to feel as guilty about it.

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Truthful Mommy 2011/07/28 - 9:43 am

You know I really hate that weight is such an issue for AMerican women. We are a nation that thrives in excess but the moment someone looks like a human and actually puts on weight from all the Go Large this and Super size that we all act appalled. There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking human. I know most of us would prefer to be healthier and smaller ( it’s been hammered into our heads since we were children) but I think we need to have a shift in consciousness. We all need to accept that we make bad choices, accept responsibility, be honest with ourselves and get the help we need to to be healthy.

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Coolwhipmom 2011/07/28 - 9:32 pm

LOVE this post! Amen is all I have to say. I had the EXACT same reaction when I saw her photo. I love it that she shared her imperfect self because we are all under the illusion that stars are so perfect. And we are all so embarassed of who we really are. I gained 50 pounds with my first pregnancy and 70 with my second. And honestly, I was SKINNY before. Always. I was confdent I was gonna be one of those skinny pregnant biatches with nothing but an adorable baby bump. But that wasn’t the case. No that wasn’t the case at all. Go Jenny McCarthy for showing how it really is! You are awesome at 211 pounds and you are awesome now. From all the mommy warriors out here… Mwah!

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Seasoned Air Force Spouse/ @milLiferocks 2011/07/29 - 12:55 pm

I loved that picture.
I do hate how the media goes from ‘bump watch’ to ‘ rockin’ post baby bod’ pics.

Following from Let’s Bee Friends.

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Jenni Chiu 2011/07/29 - 4:08 pm

That picture she tweeted totally made my day. I gained 50 lbs with my first… and am totally at 30 right now with two months to go. I love when celebrities aren’t afraid to remind us that are real life people with tons of flaws… I mean physical flaws… their mental and emotional flaws are not as easy to hide… and we get to see some of their craziness on a regular basis.
Go Jenny!

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