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Monday Minute

As many of you have probably noticed, I have been MIA since last Thursday. I will start there. My Mother went into the hospital for a simple outpatient procedure on Thursday morning.After the almost 6 hour surgery was done ( yeah, I don’t know how that qualifies as outpatient but whatever),my sister calls me with an update that there has been a complication. A COMPLICATION? Not words that I ever want to hear in conjunction with anything to do with any of my loved ones, least of all the person who gave birth to me. A simple procedure turned into a rare complication that left my Mom with blood pooled around her heart. It was very scary for all of us, and I can’t imagine what my poor Mother went through waking from her surgery only to find that she could not breathe and felt as if she were going to die. It was an emergency and my own Mommy instincts kicked in and I immediately packed a small bag,called my husband to meet us, grabbed my girls, jumped in the car and headed home to Chicago to take care of my Mom. I’ve told you all before (on multiple occasions) that I am a complete control freak. Well, that means I can’t wait for someone else to call with updates. I had to go to my Mom to know that everything that could be done to get her well , was actually being done. My sisters and brothers who were closer were there but , maybe it has something to do with being the oldest, I had to be there. I got there that night and she was feeling pretty weak and helpless. They were giving her blood and loads of pain meds, she had a chest tube to drain the blood and a catheter sticking in her neck ,it was pretty gruesome to look at but all I cared about was her getting well. I could tell she was frightened when I walked in. So, I pulled my Mommy face on and I set out to make sure that I knew exactly what was going on, that she was comfortable and in capable hands and then I went to trying to make her smile ( which is exactly what she would have done for me). The first thing I said when I saw her, ” Mom, is there anything you won’t do to get me to come visit?” She chuckled and I felt better knowing that she could smile under the circumstances. She ended up in the hospital for a couple more days. I am happy to report she is home now and resting comfortably. I just wanted to thank all of you who had expressed concern. I just could not get to a computer under the circumstances; my mind was obviously on other things.

Next, when I returned and finally had a chance to read some of my comments I came across this gem from Robin @ Your Daily Dose and it made me smile. On a weekend when I was so exhausted and spent from the emotional roller coaster of the previous days that I thought a smile was impossible, this video she tagged me in for her Here’s to you Thursday  post did. She says it reminds her of me / my blog. What are your thoughts?

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Monday Minute

If you could have plastic surgery, would you? If so, what would you get done?
Yes, return my boobies to their original place of origin, some botox, maybe some ass implants, tummy tuck, lipo on my hips and butt:)

What laws have you broken?
Aren’t they only technically broken if you were caught? So following that logic, I will admit to speeding & maybe a little reckless driving.

What is your quirkiest habit?
I hate even numbers ( so I do shit in odd quantities but at the same time I crave equality..its gets dicey sometimes), I refuse to drink out of Styrofoam cups ( the sound and feel of my teeth touching it wigs my the hell out), eat baby corn ( Because it creeps me out) and last but not least I count the letters in words as people are speaking when I am anxious ( don’t laugh, I’ve talked to my doctor about it. Its an anxiety coping mechanism and its not uncommon).

If you only had 3 songs to listen to for the rest of your life what would they be?
This requires too much thought @ midnight but I will try…
Sweet Surrender by Sarah Mclachlin  because it reminds me of my husband
Ottoman  by Vampire Weekend because it makes me happy
Pretty Much anything that Keane has ever sung. I used to sing them to both my girls in utero and to rock them as newborns and that always makes me happy when I hear it.
and finally…

How often do you have sex?
Well considering that I only get to see my gorgeous husband 3 days a week, it ranges from 1 to 3 times a week:)

Now to catch up on my Be a Better Parent Challenges . I will catch us up by listing challenge 13-15.

Be a Better Parent Challenge – Day 13 – The dreaded “in a minute”

I know we’ve all got some form of this – either it’s “in a second” or “give me a minute” or some variation of the above, but it’s basically translated in little brains as  “Never” “Mommy won’t keep this promise” or ” I say in a minute but this probably won’t happen”. It’s a bad habit and its sending my kids the wrong messages; that they are unimportant and Mommy doesn’t keep her promises.

  • In five minutes (and set the timer) which is one more reason that I love my iPhone I can set the alarm. I’ve done it when its time to come in from play so now I can use it when Mommy has to be done with her “thing”.
  • When the show is over ( basically when whatever I am doing is done within a reasonable time frame).
  • When I’m off the phone ( why do they always insist on talking to me about nothing when I am on the phone? Seriously, is it in the kids handbook?)

This is a challenging one, but it’s made much easier when you give your kids an actual MEASURABLE TIME. And then, the hard part, sticking to it.


 Be a Better Parent Challenge – Day 14 – Catch them being good

I love this challenge because  I know from experience that this really does work for me and it works wonders for my daughters’ self confidence. Now, it’s super easy to compliment your child when they do something awesome, but it’s a little harder to remember to catch the smaller things – things that you might not generally notice but could really do with some positive reinforcement so that THEY KEEP DOING THEM!
That means everything from playing nicely with a sibling, responding to you after only one request – the simple things.The sorts of behaviors, actions, and reactions that often times go unnoticed because they are, in our grown up minds, small. However, they are not small in the long run and may actually be a big feat for a teething toddler to master.
For example; “I love how you’re sharing your dolls with your sister.” or “I really appreciate that you picked up your socks the first time I asked you.Thank you”
It’s way more effective than telling them “no” or “don’t do that” all the time.Plus, I get pretty tired of always sounding negative.I don’t want my kids to think they are bad kids because they are always being reprimanded.
There will still be plenty of times where you’ll be doing that – don’t get me wrong, but catching them being good is a fabulous way to get them headed in the right direction
(your direction). Try it! – and tell me how it went tomorrow!

Be a Better Parent Challenge – Day 15 – Start a tradition

I know it may seem odd to just create a tradition for today, but the least you can do is start thinking about it. And by tradition, I mean some sort of weekly family ritual that you do every week – something that your kids can count on, look forward to, and something that’s uniquely yours (and theirs).Something they can look back on fondly and pass on to their own children.
I suppose an easy and common one is the big Sunday breakfast – whether it’s going out to eat after mass or making a big Sunday brunch at home.
Maybe it’s a weekly game night or make your own pizza night where the kids gets to pick the toppings they eat for their own pizza and top it. Perhaps it’s ice cream on Saturdays or a Thursday night dance party where you dress up and blast the music in your living room.We tend to like to have Slumber parties on Friday nights ( we do Manis and pedis , crazy PJ’s, and popcorn) or Saturday night Rock band marathons.
You may even already do this, and if you do, please share. And if you don’t, now is a great time to come up with one. I figure a part of better parenting is creating fun, positive memories for our kids, and something like this will do just the trick.Can’t wait to hear all of your new traditions fro your families.

And I almost forgot

Giveaway for the Get Moving; Family Fitness game for the Wii

it ends this week and there are NO entries! So, right now its pretty easy to win. Come one… it’s a lot of fun. You know you want to.

One more thing…

Since I always tell you when my kids are acting crazy.I absolutely must share how they pepper the chaos with moments of sublime awesomeness.Yesterday, I was talking with my Bella, “You are so beautiful! Where do you get your good looks from? Your Mama?” 

Obviously , I was teasing her about getting them from me. For Christs sake , my kid is a model and I am not, enough said.  But this was her answer, and probably one of the many reasons that she has a special little place in my heart today..

Bella: “No…my Mommy is WAY cuter!”

Is this kid not the most precious thing ever? Just like the moment she was born, I am wrapped tightly right around her and Gabs’ tiny little fingers and (Shhhh) there is no where else I’d rather be tonight.


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Monday Minute

Describe your life in one word.


Is there something you wish you had learned how to do as a child?
To not hold my frustrations in until it becomes anger. I am learning slowly as an adult.

Who has been the biggest influence on your life?

My parents but not in the emulating them sense but more in the learning from their mistakes.

What is your greatest dream/hope/aspiration?

For me personally, aside from being the best possible role model and Mommy to my girls, my greatest aspiration is to live my life to the fullest of my potential which would include becoming a well known author/blogger by parlaying my daily musings into a career.
But my greatest dream would obviously be what every Mother’s prayer is to have happy, healthy children that live, long interesting lives with respect for themselves and always on the quest to conquer their dreams and exhaust their potential.

Do you believe you have reached your potential? Why/why not?

I know that I have not because I am fully aware that all things are possible and one day I will realize my dream of becoming a well known author/blogger. Where there is a will there is a way!At least that is what I have convinced myself, after all I am my BIGGEST cheerleader!
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1. Who is your “what-if” person?
(What-if person being what if I married this person or am now in a relationship with “this” person)

I have no what if person. I live in the now. Who cares what if? The only possible what ifs are people of the past who didn’t make the cut into my future. I am married to my best friend and true soul mate. I am just lucky to have recognized perfection when it stared me in the eyes, and to have been smart enough to jump in full force, to the most amazing journey of my life, Why would I ever question that?

2. What is your nickname?
Debi, Mommy, “Debilukikuki ” Don’t laugh..my Dad made up crazy nicknames for all of his 6 children and now his 7 grandchildren, Babe, Sugar!

3. If you could choose how you died, how would you like to die?

I’d love to say in bed, in peace surrounded by the ones I love but if the punishment fits the crime (Meaning dying the way I lived..loud and obnoxious) I’d say it will more likely be some blaze of glory. I am thinking possibly spontaneously bursting into song and that turning into flames. I think for safety’s sake, I am going to invest in loads of fire extinguishers and randomly place them around my house…just to be safe.

4. If you could have named yourself, which name would you have picked?
I like Lola, its fun, its sexy, its exotic..a lot like me.  OR I’d use my middle name as my first name…Asuzenna (AH-SU_ZEE_Na).

5. Who were you named after or for what reason did your parents choose your name?

I was actually named after my Mom’s best friend (Debbie) and my Dad’s sister (Asusana) so I got a bastardized version of the two. Happy Monday!

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1. Can you burp the ABC’s?
Yeah, no way! That is pretty gross, unless you are under the age of 5.

2. So lets just say you have a 9+ hour drive ahead of you would you consider wearing Depends so you didn’t have to stop multiple times?

NO, I would never intentionally urinate or defecate on myself and sit in it ..under no circumstances. Well, maybe if I was sitting in a closet while Freddy Krueger or Michael Myers was roaming the room looking for me, but other than that..NO WAY!

3. Would you rather…run your tongue down five feet of a NYC street or press your tongue into a strangers nostril?
OK, well these are both equally nauseating but honestly…you’d be more likely if catching something licking someone’s nostril of course you’d probably need a tetanus after running your tongue down 5 feet on NYC street. OF course  if you licked where someone freshly spat or a bum urinated not wearing his Depends, yeah, I say shoot me now! I’m not doing either! TOO NASTY!!!! I’d rather be shot than ingest the cooties!

4. If you had an envelope that contained the date you would die would you open it?
Yes, and then I would do every single thing I ever wanted to do knowing I had a predetermined expiration date that I was actually privy too. I could use the kick start to my get up and go. It’s taken me 37 years to finally realize what I want out of my life, and I think knowing an end date would put it into more perspective. Its not the end, its just the end of one journey and the beginning of another.

5. Which one song describes your sex life best?
Between the Sheets, The Isley Brothers

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Monday Minute

Has anyone you’ve known personally lived to at least 100?
My paternal Grandfather made it just to 100! He was an amazing man who lived on a farm in Mexico and worked it up until the last 3 years of his life. The only reason he quit, he was thrown from a horse that he was breaking and broke his hip. (Oh yeah, 97 and still breaking horses!I told you he was amazing)

What material possession do you value the most?
Obviously, being that I am my children’s paparazzi it would be photos or rather the external hard drive that my husband has put all of my 90,000 digital photos onto. Also, my Grandmother’s ancient Bulova watch from God knows when back in the day..its just a very dainty white gold watch but it is the only thing I have left of my Grandma Daisy. Oh yeah, and the baby books!

What do you think happens to us after we die?
I think our body goes to the ground or into ashes and our souls  A) go to our version of heaven B) go to our version of hell C) if we still have some kinks to work out..purgatory which I think would have to be reincarnation so that we can try again to do better.Just my personal opinion.

Most embarrassing item in your house?
You’d think I’d say my “toys” but those don’t embarrass me, maybe the crazy rubber and chain getup that my husband thought would be sexxy (?) WTF? It’s pretty ridiculous. NO, the most embarrassing thing would probably be the incredibly ridiculous bathing suit with the cut out sides that my husband convinced me would be a good idea. It’s embarrassing because it looks so tragically hideous on. I think it was mis -sized or made for Kate Moss during her crack days because it sure wasn’t made for a regular sized person. The only thing that would be more embarrassing would be if there were any pictures in existence of me in it.Which there are not and will never be!  od, I broke out in hives just at the thought of that.
If you could rename yourself, what would your name be?
I think I like LOLA or ZOE! I think it sounds sexy. With Debi, I always got the “Debbie does Dallas” or “Little Debi” ( talk about extremes). 

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Monday Minute

1 – Have you ever had any feelings towards one of your teachers back in the day?
There was one very hot young Spanish Professor, my freshman year of college. Nothing like a hottie with a big set of brains on him:)

2 – What’s the most embarrassing thing that happened while at work? 
That would be a toss up between the time I had to dress up like a clown for a shoe sale when I was 17  or when I got called into the office by the tackiest dressing, hairy chested, open shirt, chain wearing HR guy in the universe and had him recommend that I wear less “revealing” clothes. I was 23, it was my first administrative job, and I was working with children. I was mortified and confused by the person delivering the message. So freaking embarassing.
3 – When was the last time you crapped yourself sharted?
Yeah, I’m a girl…we don’t do that. Just ask my husband. He will tell you! There are very strict rules about any and all flatulence in my house, ambitious or not! Just say no!

4 – What is one thing you have always kept a secret and why have you kept this a secret for so long?
That I see dead people! BWAHAHAHA…Just Kidding! Have you read my blog? I have no secrets. It’s all out there. And if its not…well, its going to stay that way until I need a really juicy post! Get your own juice, Ian!

and finally…

5 – What’s your best advice for us habitual coffee drinkers as to not have to poop right after drinking it?
Well, I’d say to drink  it on an empty stomach and… do NOT mix with fruit, grain, or bran! If you really want to be safe, take an Imodium 20 minutes before drinking your coffee! That should work…until it doesn’t and then you can refer to question #3!

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