Theta Mom~My TRUTH

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Today, I have the pleasure of having Heather Reinhard of ThetaMom as my guest on The TRUTH about Motherhood. Heather is a fabulous writer and all around wonderful lady. As I read her post, I realized just how much the two of us have in common. We have a common goal; to share the truth about Motherhood and to build a sisterhood of Motherhood. I have a great respect for Heather and I think that you will really enjoy her piece. If you are not a follower of Heather, I hope that you will do yourself and favor and check out this classy Mommy. If you are here from ThetaMom.com, Welcome and I am glad to have you here as I celebrate my 2nd year blog anniversary. Thank you Heather for sharing your Truth. XO

My Truth

I always knew I would be a mother someday. I think many of us have those dreams similar to those of walking down the aisle and buying the perfect little house with the white picket fence. Well, purchasing that first home and even getting married are huge milestones, but my life completely changed when I entered the world of motherhood.

What’s my truth?

Pretty much the very reason I began my blog – I wanted to connect with other women and mothers who I know were experiencing the same kind of things as I was experiencing. I developed a Mission which essentially became the purpose of my blog.

I remember thinking, “Why didn’t anyone divulge the real deal to me about actually giving birth? Why didn’t anyone tell me the whole truth about what to really expect? Why didn’t they force me to take some time for myself and enjoy every second of being selfish before I gave birth?

Why didn’t they tell me to travel more? Why didn’t they tell me that this would be the most difficult job and also the most rewarding at the same time?

Why didn’t they describe the heartache I would feel when my child was sick? Why didn’t they sit me down and really tell me the long and challenging road I would have ahead of me before bringing this beautiful human being into the world?

Why didn’t they emphasize the fact that life as I once knew it would never be the same on so many levels?

Bottom line?

I felt like I was misinformed. I felt like there was a secret code shared among mothers that wasn’t written or spoken about. And I feel the same way about motherhood.

Why didn’t anyone tell me the real deal about motherhood? Although I love my children more than anything in the world, the reality of this role was never clearly defined for me. It is by far the hardest job on the planet. So, I decided to break the secret code or at least maybe the silence. Hence, Theta Mom was born.

Theta Mom is my truth and my salvation; a place that encourages all mothers to feel united as we travel this road together. We are not perfect. We admit when we fail and we are proud of how we gracefully pick up the pieces, learn from our mistakes and move on as better mothers for it.

Motherhood is not easy – but at least we are in this thing together.

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25 responses to “Theta Mom~My TRUTH”

2011/05/24
Theta Mom
Honored to be here in this space today mama! Thanks so much for having me guest post and for being a “truthful” mama! 😉
xoxo
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1. 2011/05/24
  Truthful Mommy
  Thanks for sharing your truth and being bold enough to be real and honest!You rock. From one truthful mama to another!XOXO
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2011/05/24
Galit Breen
Yes! This blogging world does brings us together and allows us to share, celebrate and commiserate.
You two? Are perfect examples of this beauty! Love that you’re together today!
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1. 2011/05/24
  Truthful Mommy
  Awww, you are so sweet. I love that you said that. You are awesome mama!
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2011/05/24
Skinny Mom’s Kitchen
I completely agree! You never know the truth about motherhood until you are knee deep in the three P’s (poop, pee, and puke) then you are like wth this was not in the baby books 🙂
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1. 2011/05/24
  Truthful Mommy
  I love it…the three P’s! SO SO TRUE. That was never in any of the books that I read. I wish I would have known ahead of time that it would someday be perfectly acceptable for me to stick my hand down the back of my baby’s diaper to see if it needed to be changed or that wearing spit up would ever be acceptable to me.the exhaustion is mind numbing.Oh, the joys of motherhood.
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2011/05/24
Jessica
Truer words were never spoken! It’s so nice to be a part of such a positive group of women!
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1. 2011/05/24
  Truthful Mommy
  Amen! The truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth…with a pinch of couth and a sprinkle of funny:)
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2011/05/24
A Mommy in the City
I feel the same way Heather! Why didn’t anyone tell me the really hard part of motherhood? Instead they just sugarcoated it!
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1. 2011/05/24
  Truthful Mommy
  Amen Lauren. This is exactly what I want my blog to not do. Honesty is the best policy. Some surprises are not helpful. Not knowing how badly labor actually was going to hurt…was not helpful. Not knowing that milk might not come ion right away , was NOT helpful. Being made to feel like I was the only mom who didn’t know what she was doing…was not helpful.This is why I give the truth, whether I am doing something right or something completely wrong… I want to share it because there may be a mother out there who can relate and KNOW she is not the only one. she is not Alone in this crazy journey.
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2011/05/24
Jackie
Great post and I love how blogging has brought us all together into a group of great moms, sisters, friends, and confidants. Blogging is one of the best experiences for me because so many times I have realized that I’m not alone, I’m not the only one that this has happened to, and that if I need help someone will be there for me.
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1. 2011/05/24
  Truthful Mommy
  Exactly. This is exactly why I started my blog. A place that Moms can go to know that they are not alone. That there is a support system and we all mess up once in awhile.There is no such thing as perfect parenting.We just all need to be honest about it:)
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2011/05/24
Alison@Mama Wants This
Very well said, Heather. Even now, having been a mother for 17 months, I feel like there’s so much more to motherhood I have yet to discover. And with the community that I’ve found, I’m much more confident that I can find the elusive truth 🙂
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1. 2011/05/24
  Truthful Mommy
  It is a continual learning process.My girls are 4 and 6 and I am still learning new things every single day.It is a wild journey we are on. We all just need to be open and honest with one another and we can have that support , our “Village” and grow stronger and women and mothers. Welcome to the journey,my friend.
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2011/05/24
mommymommymommy
I have been a mom for sixteen years. My first was easy…best baby ever! My twins…OMG! So difficult! Most mothers of twins I knew had help (not me) and never talked about how hard it was. I used to cry in the bathroom alone, thinking I was doig something wrong.
My truth about motherhood is no matter how much I love my twins, I woud never want to go back to their baby years ever again. It does not mean that I do not love them to pieces, it just means that I am being honest.
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1. 2011/05/24
  Truthful Mommy
  LOL! I know the feeling. My 2nd had colic and OMG I nearly went bald from the stress. There is nothing worse than a baby that you can not console. I love babies but she totally scared us off a third. Of course, that fades a little each year the more distance we put between us and the Colic:)LOL
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2011/05/24
Ryan (The Woven Moments)
I think scientists will one day discover that the very fiber of our DNA changes when we become mothers.
Okay, maybe I’m exaggerating.
But it certainly FEEEEEELS that way!
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1. 2011/05/24
  Truthful Mommy
  I 100% agree. It may not change our DNA but it certainly changes our perception of the world and that is equally as amazing.
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2011/05/24
Gina
So happy to see Heather featured here- She really is great about opening up the dialog for us all to talk about the things society has told us we shouldn’t discuss. It’s so nice to know you are not alone but rather have this huge support group out there going through the same things.
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2011/05/24
Leighann
Great to see you here Heather!
How true that no one tells us what motherhood is like. Then…BOOM we’re hit with it.
But, I think it’s because no one really knows how to describe it.
There are the bad times, the challenges, but then the wonderful perfect moments make up for it.
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2011/05/24
Cam – Bibs&Baubles
so true. i had one friend that gave me the truth about motherhood. i am so thankful for that. most other people were very Pollyanna about it. When I experienced things that weren’t “Pollyanna-ish” I almost thought there was something wrong with me.
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2011/05/24
Glamamom
Love Heather! What a great guest!
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2011/05/24
Jean@MommyToTwoBoys
Oops, did the facebook comment, but meant to post here:
Such great points Heather. I feel so strongly about the being selfish before having kids thing, I DO tell everyone I know without kids that all the time. I say, lay around on the weekends and nap! Because after giving birth, your Saturday will be a completely different thing altogether.
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2011/05/24
Jessica
Such a great post and exactly why I love Heather and Theta Mom.
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2011/05/25
Jessica
Great post from Heather. It does seem like when we give birth we are not told of many of the secret parts of motherhood. Instead we are told it’s always great. Blogging is great way to share real stories with each other and to get the sense that we are not alone.
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