Would your views on same-sex marriage change if you found out that your child was gay? I woke up this morning and the very first thing that I saw on Twitter was the above photo. It gave me hope and a warm fuzzy feeling. I’ve never understood how a parent could shut their child out or be mad because of who their child was born to love.
I realize that this is not the typical Friday post that people expect but this letter truly inspired me and I felt it needed to be shared with everyone. We need more tolerance and more love in this world and less judgment and hate. The. end.
This letter from a father (who overheard his son’s conversation with his boyfriend) to his son (who is about to come out to his parents) is one of the most wonderfully accepting and loving messages a parent could send to their child. I accept you. I love you. No matter what you are or who you love, you are always my child and my love for you will never waver. I will always be here to turn to, to support you, to understand and to listen. I am your parent and you are my child and I only want what is best for you.
I understand disappointment. Disappointment in losing the idea of what you thought was going to be your child’s life. You can be sad that your child’s life may be harder than you’d want it to be. That would be natural because you love your child. Our natural instinct is to protect them from an unkind reality. We’re parents, that’s what we do.
But we can’t fight who they are. They were born this way; predisposed to love the same sex. You can’t control who they love no more than you can control who you love. You can’t beat nature into submission. It may recoil and hide to avoid the beatings but in the end, there it is, right beneath the surface and wouldn’t you rather support your child and help them to flourish in their life than to make them afraid to have a dialogue with you. No parent wants their child to feel abandoned and alone.
The next thing I saw this morning was this article about Republican Senator Rob Portman of Ohio, a prominent conservative senator who said on Thursday that he now supports gay marriage. He was previously against same-sex marriage.
His change of heart on the hot-button issue came two years after his son, Will, told him and his wife that he is gay.
“It allowed me to think of this issue from a new perspective, and that’s of a Dad who loves his son a lot and wants him to have the same opportunities that his brother and sister would have—to have a relationship like Jane and I have had for over 26 years,” Portman said.
It’s amazing how you perspective changes when the topic becomes personal. I think its beautiful that he’s seen the light, finally. People are born the way they are meant to be and it’s none of anyone else’s business who someone loves. We should just be glad there is so much love to be given and returned in the world. Love knows know bounds, no color, no religion or sex. It just is. Life is too short to waste time fighting over something that cannot be changed.