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Mommy’s getting her Truth on

by Deborah Cruz

I have prided myself on my honesty on this blog. It’s what I do, it’s who I am, it’s what I expect from others. But I feel like lately, I have found myself using a filter. Which is completely unlike me and out of character. It wasn’t a conscious choice, it was one of those things where I knew people might be looking at the blog for opportunities and so I subconsciously tried to write for an audience.

Look, I love that you people read my verbal diarrhea and Mommy brain spouts but if I am trying to filter, its not me.It’s not as real as I want it to be, as I am. I feel like you people can tell it. You can feel that I am holding something back. I feel that my writing is suffering. So, from now on, I am consciously removing the filter.

I’m not talking about explicit language ( any more than usual) or graphic photos ( Jeez, it is still a Mommy blog after all) but I don’t want to worry about a bottom line. I want get back to why I started this blog, to share my experiences, to write and to gain a community built on truth, honesty and sisterhood through motherhood.

I hope you’ll stick around.Sorry I’ve been such a douche canoe lately .Life’s been piling some shit on my plate and I’ve been wading through the murky waters of life trying to figure out how to deal with it all. I’m back now; without the filter!Happy Mothering! Pass it on:)

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Carri 2011/02/01 - 11:19 pm

Awesome! Yes, if you keep doing how you do, the people who are worth it will still follow and read. It’s hard not to get caught up in the numbers game, but you have a great blog and you’re funny as hell, so keep up the good work!

Truthful Mommy 2011/02/03 - 12:48 am

Thanks for your support. You rock. I am looking forward to taking off the filter, no matter how small its been.I want none.Time to get back to me.

Truthful Mommy 2011/02/03 - 12:49 am


Mama P 2011/02/01 - 11:51 pm

I <3 your blog, so I will definitely keep reading, I was having some of these same issues myself, needless to say I haven't blogged in over a week, but I still like reading 🙂

btw, I just discovered Throat Punch today, and I LOVE IT

Truthful Mommy 2011/02/03 - 12:50 am

Mama P,
I’m so glad that you are a reader. Hope that you can link up some time for the THROAT PUNCH THURSDAY. It;s so much fun. By Thursday, I normally need to punch or Karate chop someone:)LOL

Alicia @MommyDelicious 2011/02/02 - 1:31 am

Good for you! I know it can be hard and tempting at times to be someone you’re not (and not comfortable with), but good for you for getting back to you. I look forward to reading it all.

Truthful Mommy 2011/02/03 - 12:51 am


Thanks! I have to be true to myself.That’s who I am.That’s who you girls like.No more of this trying to watch what I say.Happy Mothering!

Abbi 2011/02/02 - 9:38 am

HA HA HA HA HA! Douche canoe is one of my most favorite sayings! Along with asshat.

Funny you wrote this post… I consciously keep a filter on my writing on my blog. I’m a certified “people pleaser.” I fear offending anyone. For instance, I have girlfriends who refuse to vaccinate their children, which is fine. I personally believe whole heartedly in them, certainly after working in pediatrics for the past 3 years. However, these same mommies are having plastic surgery, like full blown mommy makeovers.
They’ll risk anesthesia and putting chemicals in their bodies and risk of infections, yada yada yada, but don’t believe in vaccines…. I just don’t get it. I’d love to blog about it, but I don’t want to offend them.

It sucks.

Truthful Mommy 2011/02/03 - 12:53 am

Abbi, Write it! I will read it! It sounds like an epic post in the making. GO for it. There are probably many people who can identify.None of us are perfect, we just need to be ourselves. The person you need to please is YOU!:)

lebigguy 2011/02/02 - 9:40 am

Fuck ya.

Truthful Mommy 2011/02/03 - 12:55 am

Was that FUck YEAH! or FUCK YA! CAuse I’m not sure why you;d be saying Fuck me..that’s not nice! I’m assuming you are saying FUCK YEAH ( cause you are excited) and not FUCK YA ( since I know you intimately & am pretty sure that was a misspelling:) SO,Im going to answer back with a LOVE YA or was that LOVE YEAH?!!!LOL MUAH!

Sarah 2011/02/02 - 11:51 am

Good for you! That’s why I’m a faitful reader….there’s enough fake going on in the mom blog world….love that you keep it REAL!

🙂 ~Sarah

Truthful Mommy 2011/02/03 - 12:57 am

Thanks! You are such a great friend and I miss chatting. SOrry,I’ve been off in self indulgent big baby land having a teenie tiny pity party for myself. But I’ve pulled my big panties back on and I’m good for now:)Happy Mothering! I think I need to post some truisms soon…just for you:) (I know you enjoy the truisms*) Come check out the truisms:)

Sarah 2011/02/02 - 11:53 am

damn keyborad with sticky keys (doesn’t help that my little ones wipe their foodie hands all over the keyboard I suppose 😉 ….I meant faithful reader 🙂

Abbi 2011/02/02 - 1:32 pm

By the way, you were just tagged in my latest post! I hope you’ll go read it!

Bruna 2011/02/02 - 1:57 pm

I agree with Carrie. You gotta be yourself. Those who really *love* you for you, will stick around as loyal readers and followers. Those of us who really love you … will continue to through the good and the bad. We’re all on the same journey through Motherhood. We need to support each other!

Truthful Mommy 2011/02/03 - 12:58 am

Thanks Bruna! I really do appreciate all of your kind words on here and twitter. You are my sunshine, girl!

gigi 2011/02/02 - 7:15 pm

Go girl…speak your truth. I mean it!

Truthful Mommy 2011/02/03 - 12:59 am

Thank you. I will. And I want to tell you, you are inspiring me with all of your success lately!You are amazing and doing great things!WOOHOO! Keep on kicking Bloggy Ass!

Mommyfriend 2011/02/05 - 6:43 pm

Well, for what it’s worth I love it all. I’m so glad you are here to speak your truth, the world needs more honesty!


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