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Mommy Moment Monday

Mommy Moment Monday ~The Rear-view Mirror

by Deborah Cruz

Mommy Moment MondayI am starting a new meme on my blog & on my Facebook fan page, starting today and, hopefully, every Monday from here on out. We’ll call it Mommy Moment Mondays.

We all have crap Mommy moments & Mondays usually suck, so to turn it around, I want us all to post about or leave our mommy moments on my wall. There is only one caveat…it has to be a good moment.

Share a moment when you have done something right or something you feel good about. This is the one occasion that I am cheering you all on to bring on the sunshine and unicorns.

I am anti-blowing smoke up your ass. So I want real life stories (photos, thoughts) about adorable kids, unadulterated gushing is allowed and stories infused with unconditional love for your children, even if it is the most trivial thing. A smile, the way they say a word or something you did that made you feel like a good mom. It could have happened today, yesterday, last year or 10 years ago. We just need to remind ourselves that we don’t always do everything wrong and there are moments of the bliss of motherhood that we would not exchange for a lifetime of sleep and peace and quiet.

We need to stop the mommy wars and enjoy the little things, the little ones.

Today’s mommy moment is brought to you by my rear-view mirror. My two girls are now 5 and 7. Where have the years gone? When started this blog, little Gabs was only 1. She’s grown up on this blog and now she is in Kindergarten.

Every morning, I wake up, still tired from the day before. My routine is the same it doesn’t change. Wake up, wake up the girls, make breakfast, get the girls dressed, brush their teeth, brush their hair, pull on my yoga pants, make sure all papers are signed and all backpacks in tact and hit the road.

The only thing is that it never goes that smoothly. Somewhere between, “hurry up and finish your breakfast” and the “Love you! Have a great day at school” at the drop off line, there is a lot of impatience, frustrations, hurry ups, and no’s. By the time we actually get into the car, we are all exasperated and that makes the day even harder. It also really sucks to start your day off that way, for me and for them. They get aggravated and someone ends up in tears, (sometimes that’s me) and everyone ends up upset.

I hate those mornings. By the time I drop the girls off, I am overcome with guilt simply by looking in the rear-view mirror and seeing the look of deflation in my girls faces and knowing that I caused that. The guilt is palpable and contagious.

I have been making a concerted effort to change that. It’s hard. You know how it is in the mornings? It’s like Grand Central Station during the holidays; everything’s beautiful but it’s just too crazy to enjoy.

The other day we made it all the way to school and I met every over reaction with calm rational and a softer than usual voice of understanding and when we arrived at drop off, both girls hugged and kissed me goodbye, assuring me that they loved me and I did them as well.

As they exited the car, I looked in my rear-view mirror and there in my mirror, walking into the sun, on a warm autumn morning, were my two beautiful children (that I made) walking, sweetly hand in hand into the school building and a warm rush came over me. I literally got choked up at how sweet they were being to one another. I could see all the love that I feel for them, reflected back to them both, in their sister’s eyes. Because for all that I feel that I do wrong, every day as a mother, I also did that. I’ve been doing something right.

I can’t wait to read your moments. I will have a link up every Monday starting today. Please link up so that we can all celebrate one anothers Good Mommy Moments. I hope you will join me and spread it to all your fellow bloggers. I am so excited for the positivity!! WOOHOO

P.S. There is no button to use in your post for Mommy Moment Monday (Yet) I will have it by next weeks link up, for now please just use the TRUTH about Motherhood button ( found under “about tab, under buttons).

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Sarah 2012/11/12 - 10:11 am

My little girl can be a handful, but every day she always tells me she loves me at least 50 times. And she draws me all kinds of pictures. Almost always pictures of the two of us. And rainbows.
When I’m sick or I have a headache, she always tells me, “Oh Mommy, I take care of you.” I’m doing something right here. (I have pics, just not sure how to post them!)

Deborah Cruz 2012/11/12 - 10:18 am

You can post on the FB page and share:)
Oh,I love the photos of the two of us together and the rainbows. So many rainbows. What a great memory and it’s so nice to feel that love!
I have taken a few and matted and framed them for my office, just to keep them to remember these very special moments.

Goodbye, precious lovey. Hello, 1st grade. | Honest Mom 2012/11/12 - 11:45 am

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@MryJhnsn from iNeedaPlaydate 2012/11/12 - 4:15 pm

What a great idea! I would post something that fits that I wrote a week ago but the whole backlink thing and all… Maybe next week, I pinned it to remind myself.

Deborah Cruz 2012/11/12 - 7:24 pm

Girl, just link it with the https://motherhoodthetruth.com YOu don’t even have to use the button if you don;t want. I just want to read the posts!

@MryJhnsn from iNeedaPlaydate 2012/11/13 - 10:21 am

I can’t get past the back link requirement (I thought I did by adding you to my follow page…) but I will link up next week. I love this idea and I especially love how you presented this and the picture of your daughters is priceless. If you wanted to read the post it is https://www.ineedaplaydate.com/2012/11/flooded-with-tears-and-love.html but no worries. Thanks for stopping by my blog!

Mama Mary 2012/11/12 - 8:18 pm

I love this idea! I also love the idea of trying to make it out of the house without the yelling, the hurry ups, and the no’s. I notice when I am not rushed, everything goes a lot smoother. Too bad I’m usually rushed. My mommy moment today was dropping off our Operation Christmas Child donation box and having my 6 year old saying “I’m glad we did that. We should do this every year.” She has such a big heart and it warms mine!

Cindi 2012/11/13 - 9:40 am

What a great new feature!

Jelly Babies 2012/11/22 - 7:47 am

Aw really great post.


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