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Discipline; Because Sometimes You just have to Smack a Bitch

by Deborah Cruz

Before your heads explode, I am not referring to my children. I am not referring to any child on this entire planet. I was spanked as a little one and believe me when I say that I have been all over the spectrum on this subject. The bottom line is that I can’t do it, though on some days, I really wish I could. I understand why some people do, but I just couldn’t ever imagine taking hand to child and inflicting such pain and humiliation. But alas, I’m not talking about that here.That could be an entirely different post.

The “Bitch” to which I am referring is other adults. When my children are naughty and don’t behave, there are repercussions. Things are taken away, they are scolded, timed out, sent to their room.When they behave badly, they are disciplined. When my dog doesn’t listen, or pees on the floor, or heaven forbid *poops* on my floor, chews up toys, etcetera, she is disciplined. She is put outside. She is sent to another room.She is scolded. Tapped on the snout with a paper. Regardless, if she behaves badly; she is disciplined. I mean isn’t this what we are trying to instill in our children? We want our children to respect themselves and others. We want them to be good citizens of the world. We need to know that they are being released into the world with a functioning moral compass.

As adults, I expect more out of people. I expect you to have the good sense to consider other people’s feelings before speaking malicious words. I expect you to have the restraint to control yourself from acting on every impulse. I expect you to be able to keep your id and ego at bay in consideration of others. I  anticipate that you will behave age appropriately. I don’t expect people to walk the earth on egg shells out of complete disregard for themselves but I also suspect that you should know the breadth and width to which your ripple in life may carry on. No one is perfect but I expect we all ,as adults, have the capacity to employ certain behaviors that make us better people than if we did not utilize them.

But, alas, I obviously put too much faith into the species. Some people actually do need to be disciplined because whatever their parents did or did not do, didn’t take. Sometimes you just have to smack a bitch. I’ve been going through life with the belief that good things come to good people, people are generally good, and life is too short for grudges. I’ve been giving people the benefit of the doubt and turning cheeks.I may be snarky but I am not malicious.When it comes down to it, I’ve tried to make myself into someone who I’d want to be friends with. Through my children, I have learned even greater tolerance and understanding. I know I’m mouthy and I’m not everybody’s flavor of crazy but nobody is. In the end, I am honest and more importantly than that, and I’m sure the people I know can attest to this, I am genuine.

So, I’m putting you on notice, if you are on a rampage to obliterate the happiness of those you come into contact with, I WILL remove myself from your life.Remember that, write it down, know it in your heart.And if you deem it necessary  to carry on with this bad behavior, you will be disciplined. I will no longer turn the other cheek, I will no longer pretend that your words don’t hurt me. You will no longer get away with your despicable behavior in my world.You will be disciplined. I WILL smack a bitch.

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Tim@sogeshirts 2011/01/06 - 8:25 pm

I agree. Adults who are acting out of line need to be called out especially if disrespect is involved. Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself. Also agree that if they are being a negative presence in your life they need to be cut out of your life.

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/06 - 8:31 pm

Amen! I’m just sick of putting up with crap people.It’s exhausting.I want to surround myself with good people, genuine people. Not people blowing smoke up each others asses and then cutting one another down behind their backs.Or one person being a jerk and the other expected to stay quite and accept as status quo.
I want my daughters to expect good in the world and put good out into the world.But I also don’t want them to let people walk over them or worse yet have them get hurt because they allow the wrong kinds of people in.

Bruna 2011/01/06 - 8:30 pm

Girlfriend, I wish we lived closer. We see and feel the world through the same eyes and heart. I hear you! I have chosen to remove negative people from my life. I don’t need it.

Good on you for standing up and saying something!

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/06 - 8:33 pm

It’s just too exhausting to deal with any longer.I am usually “above ” it, or I try to be. I don’t want my girls to learn to write someone off for 1 indiscretion but habitual assholes need to be eradicated 🙂

Melisa 2011/01/06 - 9:23 pm

I have to agree that life is too short to stand by why people disrespect and step all over you, your kids or your family. Slap a bitch and then be sure to tell us all about it!

When my family (parents, siblings) act out of line, I give them a TO, that’s right a time out. I let them know I won’t accept the behavior and until they can do better, we won’t be seeing/talking to each other. I don’t have time for the b.s.

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/06 - 9:35 pm

Thank you for the support. I knew I wasn’t the only one who felt this way:)
I’ve got some people that are in desperate need of a time out. People just can’t stand to see other people happy. I don’t know why. I am assuming its that they don’t want other being happy when they are miserable. I refuse to be taken down! Chinga Madre, if they want to be miserable..they can go to a corner and do it themselves.I;m happy and I want to keep on being happy.

So.if it comes down to it, they get cut out!

parentingadabsurdum 2011/01/06 - 10:30 pm

Thank goodness that as adults we can walk away from people behaving badly! Kids often don’t have the option to walk away from adults who behave badly. Totally with you on both topics, baby!!

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/07 - 12:36 am


Thanks lady! I agree. That’s why we have to set a good example and teach them to walk away from people who are no good for them. Sometimes its hard but its better to make a hard choice early on before they hang on and get unnecessarily hurt.

Renee 2011/01/07 - 1:00 am

I am with you on this. I try very hard to be respectful and would like the same in return.
Some people, I think, are so unhappy personally they want to bring others down. That old “misery loves company” thing.

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/07 - 1:37 am

Exactly, we must demand the respect we deserve or we will never get it.

I so agree with you, misery enjoys company. But no more.I;m not letting people obliterate my happiness because they can’t stand their own misery.

Pamela 2011/01/06 - 8:37 pm

I’ll cut and adult bitch when they are out of line…Stupid heads!

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/06 - 8:48 pm

LMAO! Dang, you mean business:) You’d be a good friend to have in the world!

Sasha 2011/01/07 - 3:23 am

Well, even though you totally stole my blog title….

(Totally kidding, fair readers. I threatened to steal hers, actually. What? You’re not a tweeter? No wonder you don’t know what I”m talking about.)

I so agree with this. SO AGREE.

Now if I could just figure out how to get my mother and my sister in law out of my life. I’d smack them but one of them would smack me back and the other would have me arrested. And that’s not the one you think it is.

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/07 - 4:11 am

That stinks. But I totally understand. We’ve got some family members that we’d like to smack too. Don;t we all.

Too bad you can’t pick your family, right?LOL

Ali @thecoffeeqween 2011/01/07 - 3:42 am

We should be friends because I will cut a bitch!

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/07 - 3:54 am

LOL! You are cracking me up! And scaring me a lil bit:)

Alicia @MommyDelicious 2011/01/07 - 3:52 am

Gangsta! I love it. You are so right, though. We expect so much from our children that we discipline them when they are not well-behaved. But then we see adults doing EXACTLY what we would not want our children doing… OR adults doing for that matter. Girl, I have NO problem removing people like that from my life. Word.

So glad I added your new URL to my dashboard. Yay!

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/07 - 3:55 am


Thanks! I think its the best thing to do. SOmetimes we just need to cut the dead wood and move on.I;m moving on:)

Tashmica 2011/01/07 - 12:48 am

That was hilarious and a standard we all need to apply. I personally am from the slap-a-ho tribe….:)

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/07 - 1:35 am

You would do well in any situation.No ones going to mess with you, being of the direct, no pass, go straight to jail, taking no bullshit smack-a-ho tribe! You go girl:)

Mandyland 2011/01/07 - 1:53 am

The part about being the type of person you’d want to be friends with really hit the nail on the head. Sometimes I wonder how the ones who backstab, lie, cheat and demean could like themselves.

I’ve had more than my fair share of experience and refuse to get involved with people like that anymore. For God’s sake…I’m in my THIRTIES. To quote the great Roger Murtaugh, “I’m too old for this shit.”

*Points for random “Lethal Weapon” quote?

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/07 - 2:10 am

LOL! Yes, definitely an apropos quote. I too have realized that I am TOO OLD FOR THIS SHIT!
I don’t feel I should be wasting my time and energy on people who don;t care enough about others to give a damn about the concessions I have to make to fit them into my world. I say, bump it. I’m done with these types of people.
Either bring me what you expect to get in return or stay home.I Love hard and big on those who actually deserve it. Not all family and friends do, but those who do deserve it big.

Lisa 2011/01/07 - 5:47 pm

This is so very true, I dnt tend to look at people as bad just that they prolly werent raised correctly. And that they prolly come frm a long line of insanity lol

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/07 - 6:55 pm

I’ve always tried to see the redeeming qualities in people.Its just part of my half full personality but there comes a time when you just have to say no more excuses..a persons an asshole and you can only give them so many chances. Then I’m done and when I’m done ( with anything)..I;m really done.There’s no coming back from my done:)LOL

Ericka @ Creative Liar 2011/01/07 - 6:05 pm

Smacking bitches has to be my all time favorite activity. That and parasailing.

Truthful Mommy 2011/01/07 - 6:56 pm

That is just 1 of the many reasons I love u ,Ericka. We should def go parasailing and bitch smacking some day! Let’s add lunch to it and make it a girls day:)LOL

Beee 2011/01/08 - 4:59 am

Totally agree! It’s better to just remove some people from your life.

Discipline, thinking out loud 2011/07/03 - 10:27 am

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susan 2011/07/05 - 5:06 pm

yes yes yes….in fact i call it ‘retiring friendships (a gentle way of saying bugger off…) ‘and i spoke of this on a blog recently. life is too short to spend it with people who exhaust or hurt you.

Also laughed at the post on ín your head (et al). A lady in a shop once said to me, when observing a particularly spectacular í want’show put on my my one…oh yes, sometimes I think I should have drowned my children at birth…and other times I wish I had….
I laughed my head off:)


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