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Be a Better Me Challenge – Day 2-Admit your goals

by Deborah Cruz

Yesterday’s Be a Better ME ( YOU) Challenge -Day 1~Out with the old 
was a success. I did not rock the ponytail, nor did I wear my Yoga pants. I traded them in for a pair of shorts, a blouse, flip flops and my hair down. Maybe not quite the standard yet but definitely a step in the right direction away from my yoga pants. This morning I actually blew my hair out ( last night after my shower), threw on some jeans and a cute top, even put on some mascara and lip gloss. Those who know me in real life know that was a big step for me…on a Thursday morning. Of course, I walked out the door looking cute but then it rained on me! Story of my life. No problem, I did walk out the door feeling much better about myself and everyone knows a drowned rat that was fixed up looks cuter than one that started out as a hot mess. How did yesterday’s challenge go for you? Let me know!

Today’s Be a Better Me Challenge is Admit your goals. What I mean is before we were who we are now ( probably Mommies), we had dreams, goals, passions, aspirations..dare I say it , potential. I know I did and I know I was not the only one. Part of the dream for me was to be a Mommy and I am so glad that I got to do that.It has changed me forever but at my core there is still something that I need to do for me. It is as necessary to me as the air I breathe.I need to write. I need to tell a story through the written word. It’s more than putting words to paper for me; its creating art with my words. It’s something all mine. It’s my way of connecting with the universe, a community and leaving a legacy.

Why are we so willing to accept that to have a dream and be a Mommy can not co exist? The two are not exclusive to one another. Why are we so willing to condemn the Mom who goes after her dreams?  Maybe we are jealous, just a little bit that she is out there chasing her dream and we are buried under a pile of diapers, laundry, and dishes.Obviously, our children are our priorities. They are part of us in every manner of speaking. They are one of our greatest contributions to the world but do they have to be the only contribution? Why should we feel guilty and sub par for having dreams of our own? If our dream is to be successful at a career, why is that wrong?I’m here to tell you that it is not. Maybe you’re a dancer? A writer? A singer? An artist? A dressmaker? Whatever your talent is, its yours and it was given to you for a reason. Don’t squander your gifts. Believe me, by relinquishing who you are completely and losing sight of your own dreams and goals, you are for one setting a bad example for your children and secondly, you are making yourself unnecessarily miserable. There is nothing worse than a life squandered wondering what if. Maybe your babies are small or maybe you need to be at home with your children for you, for them, for whatever reason but don’t lose sight of your dreams. Write them down, yell them from the rooftop, share them with your friends, your husband, your children but keep them alive. Make some small effort to achieve them…to be happy. Maybe we can’t work at our dreams/goals 100% because we are raising our miracles but remember; you are a woman, not just a  Mommy, and you deserve to be happy and fulfilled. Today’s challenge; Admit your goals to yourself; to those around you! Only by acknowledging them will you ever make strides to achieve them.

Now link up and tell me what your goals are!Let’s spread the word. We all deserve to pursue our dreams and exhaust our potential! I’m chasing my dream and bringing you along for the ride!

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addicted2shius 2010/09/02 - 12:08 pm

Out with the old, in with the new! Bet you looked awesome yesterday. I used to stare at those moms who made the extra effort to get dolled up to take their kids to school but then I noticed once I started dressing myself up a bit more, my attitude changed. When you feel good about yourself, you can't help but just feel happy.

As far as goals go, I totally want to go back and get my Masters.

Jeannette 2010/09/02 - 6:54 pm

I'm a day late reading up on your blog hun, so my post will be up later. 🙂 I'm working on it now. Thanks for thinking up all these challenges. I really need it right now.

Shell 2010/09/02 - 7:27 pm

I love this! And you know, the best way for us to teach our kids to go after their goals is to show them by example by going after our own.

(though I am feeling a little guilt for siting here in my yoga pants)

parenting ad absurdum 2010/09/02 - 9:45 pm

Awesome! I have a hard time admitting to people that I'm writing a book – I'm almost embarassed to say it. I'll work on that!

It's a huge step for me to put on makeup too – people are lucky if I remember to brush my teeth! And I have to admit I feel a lot better the rare time I do make the effort – it's hard in Seattle, though, where sweat pants are acceptable just about anywhere. We're pretty laid back here…

purseblogger 2010/09/04 - 12:25 pm

This is awesome! I know you can do it girl. I have the exact same goal. I want to write too. 🙂


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