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Thanksgiving 2010

It’s been a glorious nine days but, as all good things, the Big Guy had to return to our regularly scheduled life; him living some place else, me left behind to tend to our life here. When he is gone, all week long,  I have become accustomed to it. Neither of us like it, but both of us accept it. It is our status quo.But nine fabulous days ago, on a Friday in November, the Big Guy came home and surprised me with the news that he would be lingering at home with us for nine glorious days. This was certainly good great news.

You don’t feel the full effect of how much you actually miss someone, until you allow yourself to admit it to …yourself. That’s what I did. That’s where I’ve been, soaking in every single, last moment that we were gifted with together these last few days. Seeing my girls happy and smiling in the security of knowing that when they awoke the following day, Daddy would be there to hug and kiss them, to drive Bella to school, to hold Gabi’s hand as they walked back to the car, to look across the table at lunch time and see his robust smile and hear his hearty laugh at the most inappropriate times. That is the good stuff. Those are the moments that we all take for granted. To have my husband there to help put the girls to bed, to cuddle and spoon with on the couch while watching really bad television, to linger in one another’s arms in the morning as the girls happily scurried from room to room singing some made up song to wake us up on a Saturday morning.To be able to cook together, to enjoy one another’s company, to watch him sit with our girls in the dark media room and hold them close as they watch Christmas movies together, to see all three of them bask in the happiness that only daddy/daughter time together can bring.To know that tomorrow would come and he would be able to remain. To be peaceful without the impending doom of departure looming over head is a luxury that we took granted for so long but not now. Now, every single moment together is a gift.

The nine days were amazing for us, to most, they would be considered ordinary. For our family, they were extraordinary. We have not had nine consecutive days together in the same residence since this past February. It has been hard, on all of us. I never realized that just his physical presence makes such a difference to all of us.It brings us comfort, security, and love.He is our touchstone. He is my rock. He is their Daddy, which is the most important person in a little girl’s life.

I never considered before that a husband who works long hours and is only seen for a few minutes in the morning as he kisses you goodbye or a couple hours at night before you go to sleep could have such an impact. In the past, I may have felt like I was doing everything and perhaps sometimes he could have helped me out a little more but at the end of the day, he was there. If I needed someone to run an errand, or I was sick and needed to linger in bed for a few extra minutes, or one of the kids needed wiping, or I needed someone to pick up dinner, take out the trash, listen at the end of the day, a warm body to cuddle up to and recharge from an energy zapping day…he was always there. Before, I may have felt like I did everything but now I actually am, and there is a BIG difference.

Tonight, our nine day dream had to end and, as I sit here typing, we are back to the cold reality that Friday can’t come fast enough. The girls were teary eyed and slightly irrational, as were he and I.We had become so drunk on all the time together that the hangover will surely feel like the end of the world, at least for the next couple of days. If you are lucky enough to have the ones you love with you,  give them an extra cuddle and kiss, you never know when that may not be the case. What is the hardest part for you when your Big Guy travels?How do your children react? How do you handle the anxiety that separation brings?

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Thankful~ Today is one of my favorite holidays of the year. Why, besides loads of awesome food, is it my absolute favorite, you ask? Because Thanksgiving is the holiday that we host! Yes, myself, the Big Guy and our girls host  30 or so of our beloved family members at our house. God bless them, everyone of them live out of town at least an hour and a half drive but its our annual Truthful Mommy & Big Guy Thanksgiving celebration and it is amazing. My parents, his parents, our brothers and sisters, their spouses and children, grandparents and any friends or extended family that needs or wants to stop by. Our Thanksgiving celebration is complete craziness but it is beautiful and warm. I get the warm fuzzies just thinking about their arrival. So, today in commemoration of these wonderful people and the sentiment behind this holiday, I am listing what I am thankful for on this Thanksgiving.

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Thankful for my Many Blessings

    • I am thankful for my beautiful little girls, who have made my life worth living.
    • I am thankful for the Big Guy who without his foresight and willingness to follow his heart against his good senses, none of this would have ever been possible.
    • I am thankful for my parents who I love with all my heart for trying their best and raising 6 children who love and respect one another above all else.
    • I am thankful for my in-laws who have chosen to take me in and love me like their own daughter, despite how different we are.
    • I am thankful for my brothers and sisters who are my best friends and greatest supporters in life. They are my rocks.
    • I am thankful for my brother in law because he is not an in law, he is simply my brother.
    • I am thankful that my brother in law has found his very own wonderful lady.
    • I am thankful that God has given me so many fabulous people to share my life with.

Thankful; Family & Friends together

    • I am thankful for my truest friends, who are few but mighty.You ladies rock my world on a daily basis by your selfless, unconditional love. You set the bar high and make me want to be a better woman. (Jen, Nicole, Nikki,Sarah….I Love You girls!)
    • I am thankful for all the awesome people who read this blog. Knowing that you read this blog gives me great happiness. YOU understand me and your support and love is priceless.
    • I am thankful for littles lying in my bed at night reaching out for me to give me random hugs.
    • I am thankful for surprise work from home weeks, in which the Big Guy gets to be home with the girls and myself.
    • I am thankful for the happiness  in my daughters faces and the smiles on their faces that having their Daddy home brings.
    • I am thankful for the wonderful Moms who I have met through this blog, and twitter (Naomi, Alexandra, Liz,Laura,Jenni,Dawn,etc) you ladies inspire me and make me smile on a daily basis.
    • I am thankful for so much that its too long for a post.Mostly,I am thankful for where my life has brought me and all the wonderfully fabulous people in my life!God bless and Happy Thanksgiving!
      Gobble,Gobble!!!

Thankful for the MOST Wonderful Time of the Year

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