The TRUTH About Motherhood

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Getting to Know me; Getting to love me

It’s Sunday and it’s time to link up and get to know all of your bloggy friends!Happy Sunday, August 1st! Now let’s get to the sharing!
The Q’s..
1. If you were to win an award today, what would it be for?
I’m not sure. Bella just said for being the world’s best Mommy, Gabs just said “NUTBALL!”. I guess we know who would be getting my award for best kid today:) I’d say maybe for finally realizing that I need to take care of me and trying to do something about it. Biggest Breakthrough!
2. What is your shoe style?
Enough said?
3. Does your car reflect your personality?
NO, my car is a big blue Durango more of functionality. It’s ok, but if I were driving something to represent me it would probably be
Sleek, sexy yet totally functional.
4. If you could take over someones body for a day..whose would you choose?
She’s long, lean, strong and sexy
Oh yeah…and beautiful!
5. Love or be loved?
I do enjoy being loved but more than anything I love to LOVE on my girls, the big guy and my family and friends. So, I am going to say love.
6. If you were on death row, what last meal would you choose?
That is easy. It would be my favorite meal that the big guy makes for me…Turkey and cranberry ravioli in a nice cream sauce, panzanella salad with fresh sweet cornbread, chocolate tiramisu..all from scratch. With a nice chilled bottle of Pinto Grigio! Actually, I may just have him make that today..it sounds so yummy!
7. Have you been on vacation this Summer, if so where?
NO,the big guy is working out of town so we live for him to come home. Though we have been to mini breaks to visit the parents and to Chicago for the day.
8. What is your favorite food related guilty pleasure?
CARBS, CARBS AND MORE CARBS! I could forgo all other food for fries. I would rather work out for 2 hours straight than miss out an a carb.It’s my addiction.
2010/08/01
FAWK YOU FRIDAY: July 30,2010
Well, Friday is almost over so I’ve got to get my Fawk Yous in. I’ve got a few, don’t we all.
- Fawk you first and foremost to, you guessed it, the bald spot that has decided to descend upon my crown and really mess up my self confidence and my psyche this week. To you, I say FAWK you!
- To the stupid ass, muscle shirt wearing ,drama queen who hosts Ghosts Adventures. Nothing else is on, this douche bag ruins my Friday night quiet time every week..FAWK YOU!!!
- To the movie Remember Me, thanks for taking a perfectly hot Patterson and putting him in the most ridiculously melancholy, unpredictable ending movie ..ever!FAWK YOU…remember that!
- To the nightmare I had with the machete weilding, homicidal maniac, who I walked in on mid way through him carving my baby up like a swine at the butcher shop, as he smiled at me and my baby cryed with her last breaths. You were so real that I woke up terrifed and lost sleep ( Hello! I already don’t sleep. I don’t need this shit!) When I woke up, my breathing was so shallow and labored that I literally felt like I was going to die.Fawk you nightmare! In the end, the macete weilding maniac got what he deserved and so will you nightmare! FAWK YOU, RIGHT IN THE FACE! Nobody messes with my babies!
2010/07/30
It’s Friday; Dance like no one is watching, sing like the whole world is deaf, and smile until your face hurts!
Happy Friday! Where the heck did this week go? Between the bald spot, the big guy coming home,a giant Mommy Meltdown and general perpetual cleaning ; this week has flown by. I’m ecstatic its Friday.I’m headed out to coffee with one of the besties sans children ( did I mention the Big guys home!WOOT WOOT!). Plus , I got a whole 8 hours of sleep ( unheard of) that’s why my Throat Punch didn’t get posted last night but never fear, I will post it as soon as I return from my girl time. Which reminds me, I’d better get dressed:) One more thing, I am really trying to reach 1000 followers by my birthday in September so help a girl out. I promise to follow back, it may take me until Sunday to visit and follow back but I will.Do me a favor, leave your site address in your comment.Also, I finally got a button, so please feel free to snag one of those to show your love for The TRUTH about Motherhood! Happy Mothering!
2010/07/30
Project Mom Casting Call; The Truth the whole truth and Nothing but the TRUTH!
I am Debi, I am a truthful Mommy. I am a 30 something Mommy, lucky enough to be married to my best friend and have 2 daughters whom I adore, most of the time. The last couple of years have been crazy for us with the economy. My husband has been downsized three times and we have moved twice and are about to move again. I’ve been single Mommying it during the weekdays and that’s a new experience, as well. Not exactly what I signed up for when I said I do. I used to have a life, friends, and work outside the home but when we had our daughter, I knew that I wanted to be home with her. I am honest about the good and the bad, so other Mommies can come to realize that they are not alone in the difficulty assimilating into this role in life. None of the parenting books tell you the truth about mothering. They spin it all around and make it a fairy tale so when reality hits and we are in the trenches of real Mothering, we sometimes feel like absolute failures. I am here to let the world know that it is magical and on some days, it’s menial but it’s all worth it.
I have discovered firsthand through the rigorous initiation process of Motherhood that most Mommies are so afraid to fail that we lie about how great and easy it all is, which is helpful to absolutely no one. I’m here to stand up and say, it’s not! It’s hard, sometimes hellish work but the random “Me love you Mommy” s and little jelly covered arms choking you with love makes it tolerable and at moments, even sublime. Motherhood is hard and it’s boring at times. I AM your average Mommy~ working my ass off to give my girls the best possible childhood I can provide. It’s not easy and it involves a lot of regret and self doubt, almost continuously, but I’d never trade this experience for something different because to give up the chaos, I’d have to give up all the bliss; the little day-to-day miracles that I’d miss if I weren’t here to look for them. For example; the feeling you get when your eyes meet your breastfeeding babies in the middle of the night, or how a simple coo can erase an entire horrible day, the way your heart speeds up when you first see their heartbeat or hear their voice
I blog for many reasons. The most important reasons being; I love my family. I also have grown fond of my sanity and need an outlet for all of the frustration. It helps connect me to others at a time in my life, when it is easy not to be. My blog allows me a place to be Debi, not just Mommy. My dream would be to parlay what I am passionate about (my family /writing) into a voice in the world.

Project Mom Casting has an open casting call to mom bloggers. They’re looking to pitch a reality-based show about bloggers and the world of social media. If they like what I just said, I may be called for an interview.
If you’d like to give me some props, head over to the Project Mom Casting Facebook page and click “like” on my submission. Or, retweet this using @momcasting in your mention!

2010/07/26
Monday Minute; July 26,2010
1. Who is your “what-if” person?
(What-if person being what if I married this person or am now in a relationship with “this” person)
I have no what if person. I live in the now. Who cares what if? The only possible what ifs are people of the past who didn’t make the cut into my future. I am married to my best friend and true soul mate. I am just lucky to have recognized perfection when it stared me in the eyes, and to have been smart enough to jump in full force, to the most amazing journey of my life, Why would I ever question that?
2. What is your nickname?
Debi, Mommy, “Debilukikuki ” Don’t laugh..my Dad made up crazy nicknames for all of his 6 children and now his 7 grandchildren, Babe, Sugar!

3. If you could choose how you died, how would you like to die?
I’d love to say in bed, in peace surrounded by the ones I love but if the punishment fits the crime (Meaning dying the way I lived..loud and obnoxious) I’d say it will more likely be some blaze of glory. I am thinking possibly spontaneously bursting into song and that turning into flames. I think for safety’s sake, I am going to invest in loads of fire extinguishers and randomly place them around my house…just to be safe.
4. If you could have named yourself, which name would you have picked?
I like Lola, its fun, its sexy, its exotic..a lot like me. OR I’d use my middle name as my first name…Asuzenna (AH-SU_ZEE_Na).

5. Who were you named after or for what reason did your parents choose your name?
I was actually named after my Mom’s best friend (Debbie) and my Dad’s sister (Asusana) so I got a bastardized version of the two. Happy Monday!
2010/07/26
Getting to Know You
Hey Hey Hey..It’s Sunday..Time for another super exciting edition of Getting to know YOU..
*wanna play..copy the questions..answer them..then go to MannLand5 and link up*
The Q’s..
1. Thong or Granny Panties?
I am a thong girl. I can’t do the whole Granny panty thing, not enough junk in the trunk to accommodate all that material. J-Lo , I am not!

2. If you see a guy with his fly down, do you tell him?
If I know him, for sure. If not, probably not. Don’t want some random to think I am coming on to him!

3. Spanx or no Spanx?
I hate them, but I am guilty of partaking. Normally not but if I am sporting a dress that is really fitted, don’t want any lumps that aren’t suppose to be there….I smooth!

4. Do you sleep in your sheets?
No,I sleep on my sheets under a down comforter..with one foot sticking out of the side:)LOL I get really hot , really easy…not a fan of being hot (temperature wise anyways) at bedtime!

5. What is your favorite Disney character?
I like Tiana from Princess and the frog because she hung on to her dreams and pursued them and made them a reality..through hard work and determination!
6. Dream vacation spot?
Italy,Spain, Greece, pretty much anywhere on the Mediterranean or tropical and warm.

7. What is your dream job?
Dream job would definitely be parlaying my ~~love~~ blog into a column, then a book, and eventually become the next Dooce like blogger on the scene..it could only be made more dreamy if I could do it all while traveling the world with the big guy and my girls!
8. Who is your hero and why?
My hero is anyone who pursues their dreams and never gives up, exhausting all potential.I am also particularly fond of people who live their lives in a way that they actually treat others the way they want to be treated in the world. And people who have respect for themselves, the planet,and others. If I had to pick one person, I would pick my friend Jennifer because she is an amazing human being and I aspire to be more like her!
2010/07/25
Now you can spread the LOVE
Finally, I’ve got a BUTTON!!! I’m so excited!Please take a button and place it on your site to show how much you love the TRUTH! Happy Mothering!
Debi
2010/07/25
First Ever FAWK You FRIDAY
Fawk you to the excruciatingly miserable heat! Hey Heat, you suck! I’m melting and frizzing up over here..NOT COOL! Thank God I get to take my family to a baseball ~~heat stroke~~ game tonight. It shouldbe ever so pleasant melting out under the lights.
Fawk you to being chunky! This goes hand in hand with the heat, chunky in the heat = A very unhappy Mommy! Sweaty kids hanging on a already glistening Mommy , not my idea of family fun time.
Fawk you to me for not doing the exercise I was supposed to do this week.If I had, maybe I wouldn’t be so dang hot right now. But in my defense, I am pretty sure I would have had a heat stroke and died had I tried to do Turbo Jam in this weather. Then what would have become of my poor sweaty children? They would have been left to their own devices …bathing in the pool as my carcas rotted on the living room floor until my husband made it back in town on Friday. So ,really, its not my fault at all!
Fawk you to the 133 million under cover cops that are patroling the highways this weekend.I’ve got people to see and places to go, you are only slowing me down and making things a wee bit more dangerous when I have to drive constantly watching my rear view mirror.
Fawk you to stupid people ( damn heat induced grouchy attitude) ! But let me be honest, I have no tolerance for stupid people especially when I am in line at Walmart trying to buy some hot dogs and wine for tomorrows lunchtime bbq! Don’t jugdge me…I just realized how incredibly redneck that sentence made me sound. I actually made the remark about how redneck I felt buying hotdogs and wine at WALMART while in line there. The brain trust behind the register, obviously, did not see the humor in it. So, FAWK her too!
2010/07/23
The Monday Minute 7/19/10
What’s your real name?
Debi
Have you ever fabricated a story or anything on your blog?
No, the stories are real, the feelings are real, my chaos is real. The whole purpose of my blog is so that I can be real and other women will know that they are not the only ones who are not perfect:) Embrace your insanity!
When in the car do you listen to the radio/CDs/iPod/etc?
Usually the radio if I am in the car by myself. I turn it all the way up and sing at the top of my lungs, its the only time I can listen to current music that is actually NEW! Otherwise, I am restricted to CDs, or whatever I have on the Ipod but most likely I’m jamming to nursery rhymes, Dora, the Wiggles, yo Gabba Gabba, Laurie Berkner and Dan Zanes!
Describe the ‘sexiest’ item of clothing that you own
hmmmm…I have lots of sexxxy clothing unfortunately none of it fits right now! My favorite sexy piece of clothing is …
But if the big guy cooperates, soon this will be the sexiest piece of clothing that I will own…
Would you be willing to breastfeed your friend’s three year old child?
No way! Breastfeeding after the first 6 months to a year ( at the max) is a big NO WAY for me.Unless there were extraneous circumstances like..it was the only way the kid could survive and even then..it would still be difficult for me!
2010/07/18
Getting to know You!

1. If you had to choose a country to live in besides USA (or the country you live in), which would it be?
I would have to say Spain, Italy, or Greece. I need sun, great food, and sexxxy men!
2. Which would be worse, wearing flip flops in the snow or wearing gloves in the summer?
Worse would be wearing gloves in the summer. I can’t stand to be uncomfortably hot , extra clothing is not an option in the heat.
3. Fried or Bake and why?
Bake, I can’t stand the taste and feel of grease in my fingers, on my lips, in my mouth or in my stomach!Ewww!
4. If you were an entertainment reporter, which celeb would you love to interview and why?
Alexander Skarsgard, really just because he is hotter than any other man on the planet, also maybe Angelina Jolie because I think she would be interesting to have a sit down with.
5. What was your favorite book as a preteen/teenager?
The Catcher in the Rye, I was quiet and I thought Holden was awesome. I read mostly adult books that were passed down from my aunt who was a few years older. I remember reading the Exorcist and scaring the shit out of myself!
6. List your top 3 guilty pleasure television shows.
The Real Housewives of NY & New Jersey, Jersylicious, and Jersey Couture ( that should all count as one as they are all from Jersey), Vampire Diaries, & True Blood!
7. What bumper sticker slogan best describes you/your attitude/your life?
8. If you were to join a circus – what performer would you be?
I would be the ring leader, because I like making a spectacle of myself and being in charge of everything!
2010/07/18