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Throat Punch Thursday~ You Dirty Mommy Blogger Edition

by Deborah Cruz

Throat Punch Thursday~Mommy Blogger

Lately, there’s been a lot of controversy over the term Mommy Blogger.  Yes, I know I should be giving a hefty Throat Punch to Casey Anthony for being worst mom of the century but I think I’ve wasted enough time on making this sad and sorry woman into a celebrity. This is my last opinion on the subject: Casey Anthony is a woman who clearly has problems and has to live the rest of her life knowing that she has let her daughter down; that she will never hold Caylee in her arms again and that no matter what the jury decided, in the American Public’s eye, she is guilty in thought, word and action. In the end, she is alone and she is culpable.

Moving on, as I was saying, the very term

Mommy Blogger

seems to be inciting revolutions. I am a Mommy who is a blogger. But I don’t blog about JUST being a Mommy. I am a human, with a vast array of thoughts and emotions. I have 38 years of life, experience and wisdom to share. I am worth more than the sum total of all my parts. It’s really disturbing to me to hear Moms who are bloggers disgusted and disgruntled by the fact that they are called mommy bloggers.  It is said in the blogging community almost as a dirty word or an insult.

You know how you hear that teachers are not being paid very much and you think “what? These are the people educating our future” and then you think to yourself, “These people she be paid a million dollars a year.” They ARE making a difference. This is how I feel about Mommy bloggers.

Or when you realize that there are entire countries where men think women are useless and have no voice. No opinion. No merit. It begs the question, how the fuck do you think you got here? There are entire continents that don’t want baby girls. But baby girls grow up to be women and women have babies. Babies perpetuate the human race. See where I’m going with this? Mommies are what make the world go round. Mommy bloggers share these experiences.

Mommy Blogger

So,when I hear a negative connotation associated with being a Mommy Blogger, it pisses me off. I work hard on my blog. I pour my heart, blood, sweat and tears onto the page to share with my readers. It’s not always about babies pooping, first days of kindergarten or photos of how cute my kids are. It’s not always gushing. Sometimes it a woman on the ledge sharing the deepest recesses of hardest moments of life. Sometimes I blog about how current events are effecting the world. Other times I use my life experiences and education to help my readers broaden their horizons and open their minds. Some days, I am pure sunshine and rainbows and am here to make you smile and laugh heartily. Either way, I think I serve a purpose for my readers and I know having the opportunity to share serves a purpose for me.

The worst part is that not only is the term Mommy Blogger used in a derogatory way, it’s used most often by other bloggers. Worse still is the jealousy and competition that comes, not only from traditional journalists, but that from within the blogging community itself. I have met some amazing Mommies who are bloggers. I have learned so many important life lessons by sharing a community with these wise women…these mothers. But then, every once in a while, I see envy and competition raise it’s head. Is this where the negative view of Mommy Blogger is derived from?

mommy blogger

The Throat Punch this week goes to self-loathing Mommy Bloggers and all those who think that just because a blogger is a Mommy that she is less respectable than any other writer in social media. Shame on you! We are Mommies who Blog…hear us roar! And just because we share about parenting, doesn’t give you carte blanche to know every single thought we’ve ever had or the right to delve deeper than we are willing to share.

What is your definition of a Mommy Blogger? Are you a Mommy Blogger? Are you embarrassed to be called such? Or are you loud and proud? Love to hear your thoughts.

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Galit Breen 2011/07/07 - 6:03 pm

Such an important post friend! And you’re so right- there is a strange negativity wrought onto the term Mommy Blogger- really strange when you think of what a powerful medium, force, and awe-inspiring dialogue mommy bloggers bring to the table!

This post? Pure fab. As are you.


Truthful Mommy 2011/07/07 - 6:24 pm

I love that you get this piece.We, as Mommies, and even more so as bloggers..we have a very loud,proud voice i the world. WE have the ability to make changes in the world.It all starts with growing a baby and then honestly, authentically bringing that experience to the world.WE ARE literally shaping the future with what we do.

You are pure awesome, my friend!

Galit Breen 2011/07/08 - 1:09 am

Oh my darlin- right back ‘atcha! XO

Shell 2011/07/07 - 6:24 pm

I’m a mommy and I blog=a mommy blogger. Proud of it.

The Informal Martriarch 2011/07/07 - 6:32 pm

I haven’t felt it. I’ve always been proud of my mommy blogger status. Maybe it’s because I was active more so long ago and now I’m finally getting back into it.

Truthful Mommy 2011/07/07 - 11:29 pm

I love your positive attitude!

Dana 2011/07/07 - 6:33 pm

So true. The thing is, it’s not just “mommy blogging” that’s under fire. A while back there was an article, “When Did ‘Mom’ Become an Insult?” That’s good reading. https://blogs.babycenter.com/mom_stories/when-did-mom-become-an-insult/

Truthful Mommy 2011/07/07 - 11:28 pm

I;d love to know how being a mom could be an insult!

Evin Cooper 2011/07/07 - 6:33 pm

Proud Mommy Blogger here… I started out as a Food Blogger but if you look at my blog it’s such a mish-mash of every thing, I’m proud to wear the Mommy Blogger badge! What’s so shameful about it, anyway?

I do feel that a lot of the “professional blogger” types – you know, the ones who blog about blogging? – look down on “mommy bloggers” but really? Who gives a shit what they think. When they get some real content, then they can talk.

Truthful Mommy 2011/07/07 - 11:27 pm

I’m still trying to figure out what is shameful about it? I’d love to hear why it is negative.

Babe_Chilla 2011/07/07 - 6:37 pm

I often struggle with this term. As you say, you’re a mom who blogs but you don’t only blog about being a mom, so what does that make you?

What does that make me or any of us? I too am a mom who blogs. And about 90% of the time, my blogging relates in some way to being a mother. That said, it’s certainly not all sunshine and roses, it’s certainly not all motherhood related, and my blog certainly should not be read by children.

I hate that the term get’s such a bad rep. Plenty of amazing mothers pour their hearts into writing kid-centred AMAZING blogs, that I stalk for idea on how to feed/cloth/entertain my child. They take copious amounts of carefully edited photographs, they dedicate time to staying in the loop with parenting trends. They bake cookies and post about it. They are the definition of mommy blogger to me, and none of that sounds bad.

I wish those of us who have procreated AND chose to write weren’t looked down upon like some scum of the writing world. I honestly don’t get it.

Truthful Mommy 2011/07/07 - 11:25 pm

I’m with you all the way!

Crisc 2011/07/07 - 6:37 pm

To me a “mommy blogger” is someone who only blogs about how perfect and cute their kids are. There’s blogs out there written by moms such as yourself. You talk about different things and your life isnt always roses. A mom blogger ONLY talks about her baby/kids milestones, how great her family is and lots and lots of the same pictures of her happy toddlers..lol

I am not a mom blogger I fall under homeschool blogger..haha I dont read the blogs that are always butterflies and rainbows because then I get the feeling that person isnt being real cause no one has a perfect life and at some point we all gotta bitch =)

Truthful Mommy 2011/07/07 - 11:24 pm

OK, so by your definition of Mommy Blogger is someone pushing their kids down your throat while painting an inaccurate picture of their life by selling you sunshine and unicorns while blowing smoke up your ass?LOL If that’s true, then I would agree the term would be insulting. Im all about the honesty and the all encompassing scope of being a woman.
Thanks for sharing!

C @ Kid Things 2011/07/07 - 6:39 pm

I’m not offended by the term at all. I own it. It’s even in my tag line. I write stories from my life. My kids are a big part of that life. Thus, most of my stories involve my kids. There is nothing wrong with that.

Truthful Mommy 2011/07/07 - 11:22 pm

You go on with your loud and proud self. I Heart you taking ownership and making it positive! Mommy bloggers rock!

Alison@Mama Wants This 2011/07/07 - 8:12 pm

An awesome throat punch! I don’t think of myself necessarily as a mommy blogger, though I am both a mother and a blogger. However, I am not in any way offended by the term and it puzzles and irks me when WOMEN bloggers look down on mommy bloggers. Don’t they have better things to worry about?

Truthful Mommy 2011/07/07 - 11:20 pm

NO idea how or why anyone would be insulted by being called a mommy blogger. It’s kind of ridiculous. Maybe I need to know why it is insulting because I don;t get it.

Jenni Chiu 2011/07/07 - 8:42 pm

On my Q and A page someone asked me if I was a “mommy blogger”? I said, “I don’t know- what the fuck is a ‘mommy blogger?'”
I don’t really know what it’s supposed to mean. I’m also a woman… does that make me a “woman blogger”? What about Asian… am I an “Asian blogger?”… or a “tall blogger”?
I blog… that’s about all I know.

Truthful Mommy 2011/07/07 - 11:18 pm

I’m with you. I am a Mommy. I am a blogger. I am also a human. A latina. AN oldest child. A sister. A wife. A daughter. A friend. A spanish speaking, Italian speaking, French speaking Buckeye who used to spend her summers in Mexico. TEch guru, social media nerd, writing fool, Chicago loving traveling monkey Rock Star.So, what the fuck does that make me?LOL

Sara (@MothersHideaway) 2011/07/07 - 11:44 pm

This is so true! I cringe when I hear the term mommy blogger, but that is what I really am. I blog about all aspects of my life and guess what…Mommies live all aspects of their life.

So yes, being a Mommy Blogger isn’t an insult…it’s just a title that we should accept and live up to.

Amber 2011/07/08 - 3:31 am

Nobody calls me “Mommy” at home, my boys still call me “Mama” so I’ve never identified with the term. However, I am technically a Mommy Blogger. I write an illustrate a humor blog that is solely about parenting even! I haven’t heard much negativity surrounding the term but then again I tend to put pop culture ear plugs in fairly often so I’m not one to ask.

A Mommy in the City 2011/07/08 - 8:17 am

I am a mom and I blog, but there is so much more to me than that. People who actually read my blog should know that!

JDaniel4's Mom 2011/07/08 - 9:09 am

I love being a mommy blogger. It is what I am and what I write about.

Leighann 2011/07/08 - 2:59 pm

I love and agree with everything you’ve said here!
We are Mommy bloggers and we bring change, a voice, and support to one another!

Sarah 2011/07/08 - 5:01 pm

I’m totally proud to be a mommy blogger. I personally haven’t been affected by the negative connotations behind the term, but I can see how it would be out there. No one can leave a perfectly fine thing alone, huh?

I think the people who are negative about the term mommy blogger are the same who are negative about being “just” a stay at home mom. Yes, I’m a mother. Yes I happen to choose to stay home and raise my children. But does that make me less of a person? Only if I let myself think it does.

So I’m also a mommy blogger. I write things that are relatable to moms. Does that make me less interesting, less qualified as a writer? Only if I let myself think it does!

Carri 2011/07/08 - 6:49 pm

Who uses that term, anyway? The bloggers who blog about stupid shit that nobody can relate to. They can suck it.
What I don’t like are the “Mommy Bloggers” who claim that their lives are nothing but rainbows and unicorn farts. They can also suck it. This is why I love blogs like yours because you speak the TRUTH!
We’re moms, we’re bloggers, but we’re also a lot more than that. I don’t really like to be pigeon holed into a corner but if I am, so be it.
Great Throat Punch!

The TRUTH About Motherhood Anatomy of a Mommy Blogger,The TRUTH About Motherhood,mommy blogger 2012/07/12 - 8:01 am

[…] When did Mommy Blogger become a bad word? The other day, I was accused  by one of my readers at another site I write for ( not you ladies, you rock), who apparently doesn’t know me like you all do, of sitting around in my robe all day and thinking up these “ridiculous” articles. I wish! I believe the article was one in which I compared “real” (meaning those of us who are not celebrities. Not meaning to imply that Beyoncé is not a “real” mom because obviously if she has a baby and is taking care of it, she is “real” not imaginary.) Well, apparently Beyoncé reads that website because someone certainly attacked me for that remark and the only person who I can think of that should get that defensive about Beyoncé would be Beyoncé herself or her mama. […]


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