Resolving to incite a revolution ~I am way past the point of making resolutions.After all, what the hell is a resolution anyways, nothing more than an empty promise, a flimsy threat at the most.Nope this year, I am declaring war. I’m inciting a revolution.I am resigning myself to a little shock and awe!
*No MORE Cheating! You heard me. I don’t mean that I’m cheating on the Big Guy, never! I mean cheating on diets, cheating myself out of life, cheating myself short on opportunities, cheating my girls out of my complete attention and devotion.
*Embracing Exhaustion! Oh yeah, I am about to make it my mission to exhaust every single iota of potential that these bones have in them. No more sitting on the sidelines letting life happen to me or waiting for things to be done for me, this broad is grabbing life by the balls and making him my bitch. I am going to work this potential so hard, its not going to know which way is up. As the old cheer goes, “Be aggressive..B*EE* EE Agressive!” I’m about to be the change I want to see in my world!
Resolving to incite a revolution
*Organization, Organization, Location! I am a planner, a scheduler, a write it down on paper and DOER! Life seems to have gotten out of control.I don’t mean a little bit off kilter, I mean it has spun right the hell off its axis.Well, NO MORE! Hey, life! Guess what? I AM IN CHARGE..NOT YOU! So, I’m putting pen to paper ( yes, I’m old school like that sometimes) and I’m making a schedule. I’m waking up earlier, getting more sleep, not rushing through life because I’ve planned accordingly, and ( because I am still a bit reckless) I’m even allowing copious amounts of free time for spontaneity.
*Love Hard, Love often! I am making sure that the Big Guy and the girls know how much I love them and how important they are to me. I’m not referring to telling them, speaking the words. I do this already, several times a day. In fact, I’ve told the girls ( constantly) since birth “Guess what? I have a secret.Want to know what it is?” They used to get all excited, their eyes like saucers and ask”Yes, Mommy. What is it?” My answer, I’d bend down and whisper in their tiny ear ,” I Love you more than anything.” Now, they just give me a sheepish smile and say, “What is it Mommy? Tell me!” But more than saying the words, I want to show them with my thoughts and actions.I want to be present in every moment with these family and friends that I have been blessed to be surrounded by in my life. I want them to know in their heart that when I say “I love you” it means..forever, for always, for good, for bad, for ups, for downs, for skinny, for fat, for Always. When they speak, I want them to know I am listening and that what they say matters to me. No more decorum.I am loving on my littles, the Big Guy, my family and friends with an embarrassing amount of exuberance. I want them to feel it to their core…I love them.
Resolving to incite a revolution
*Prioritize, Perspective, and Present The only way to get it all done, in conjunction with my handy schedule, I have to prioritize what’s really important to me and my family. This depends on my perspective. I am choosing to utilize my own perspective ..finally. I am not considering all the outside factors, aside from my girls. I’m also willfully choosing to see life as ALWAYS half full and at my dispense because, in reality, it is. My only limitations have been those I’ve set upon myself. No more! Last but not least, I’m living in the moment. I’m embracing every stinking moment as it happens. I’m not planning for next year, next week, tomorrow…I’m living in the now..RIGHT NOW,with my girls and the Big Guy. I want to enjoy the small things of my life as they happen, not in 20 years in retrospect as a memory. I want to feel the full effect of my life.
*Forgiveness I am forgiving myself for not being perfect. I am not the perfect wife. I am not the perfect Mom. I am not the perfect friend or daughter.I don’t have the perfect body. I don’t have the perfect house. My temper leaves something to be desired. I over extend myself. I expect too much from myself and others. I fall short, in a lot of ways. But that doesn’t mean that my efforts do not have merit. I am hitting reset for everyone I know. I’m passing out forgiveness like kool aid at a Jonestown party. NO more Mommy guilt, no more fatty McFatty guilt, no more I’m not the perfect wife.My house is disheveled. My kids aren’t perfect.No more, I wish I was Bree Van De Kamp bullshit. From this moment forward, I am going to try my best at every endeavor that I choose to undertake with my priority being excelling at being a good example of a the kind of woman I want my daughters to see me as. I will never be perfect, and that is perfectly acceptable, as long as I am living my life as the best me.
*Incite a Revolution I’m initiating a change in my way of life. I am actively taking steps to become the person that I want to be.That woman who lives inside of me and has been too afraid for a long time to take a gamble.The woman who, even though I hate to admit this, I have realized has been so afraid of failure that I have let it stave off success. No More! No more excuses. I’m not afraid of failure anymore.If I fall, I will just pick myself up and try, try again!But today, I am inciting a revolution between the version of myself that I’ve let myself get comfortable with and the woman I know I can be. I’m starting by setting fire to excuses and self doubt and I’m marching forward with self confidence.
What have you resolved to incite revolution about in your New Year? How are you going to go about succeeding? Happiest of New Years! Hang on to your hats ladies, it’s going to be battle of epic proportions but everything worth having in this life is worth fighting for!
52 comments
I can't agree with you more on absolutely every point you made in your post! No more resolutions for this chickie either:)
I want to be a new women too! You've inspired me, my friend, to go out there and be the best I can be!
Thank you for being a good friend … you're one of few tweet girls who have shown me kindness and attention:) You rock!
Bruna,
You are awesome. WE can do it! Let’s be the best “me” s that we can be. Its what we deserve.It’s what our girls deserve!You go girl!
Love the enthusiam!!! Embrace that exhaustion. Embrace it!!! You rock. And you are the super sweetest.
Peryl,
You rock and have I mentioned how excited I am that you are on twitter! You know me, I had to embrace the exhaustion. I think the saying is, if you can’t beat them join them.I’m literally getting more sleep but I’m also working on exhausting my potential.I’m not stopping until I drop:)
You. are. amazing.
Laura,
You are amazing! You’ve got a heart and determination of a Lioness! So glad we are friends.Here’s to an awesome year for both of us!
I love your fierceness! This is so deep. I'll have to read it twice. I'm gonna let somethings marinate, come back, and read it again. No more cheating myself or my son on opportunities. No more resentment, but forgiving myself for not being perfect (LOVE IT!). No more holding back — love hard and love often!
I love this post! Ouch!
Alicia,
Go for it! Print it out, read it again, let it marinate and go for it. Be your best you! Forgive yourself for the perceived “misses” and move on. Life is too short to waste it trying to measure up to some impossible standard!
PS I love that you called me fierce!Now,I feel FIERCE!
I may have to steal your embracing exhaustion resolution. I always find myself thinking, "ugh, I am soooo tired" and then I get into that mindset where I don't feel like doing anything.
I like it! I can't wait to see how it goes for you!
Gini,
I will keep you posted. I feel it in my bones that this is going to be a BIG year. I’m looking past the woulda, shoulda, couldas and I’m making it happen. Life is too short for good things to happen. We’ve got to make them happen. I’ve been tired, so Im going to bed earlier. it sounds simple enough but its a HUGE undertaking. Those extra wee hours of the night are my “ME” time.I’ve shifted my thinking. Noww,I go to bed earlier but I wake up earlier and instead of sitting watching tv, Im spending my Me time working out.I think its best for everybody. Plus,I’m really sick of these perma circles under my eyes.It doesn’t suit me anymore:)Happy 2011!
Love, Love this post! I think I might have to print it out and keep it as a handy reminder!
Nicole,
I LOVE that you love it! And I hope you do print it out and it reminds you that you can do anything..just breathe. You are an amazing person and you deserve all the good things life has to offer!
Thank you! This is just what I needed to hear today.
I am trying to organize and prioritize my life so things run smoothly for my kids during some minor but abdominal surgery I will be having this week, and am needing to just settle down and keep the anxiety at bay while I get everything settled into place. Deep breaths.
And Happy New Year to you.
Varda,
Thanks for the New Year wishes! The same to you. I have a feeling its going to be a wonderful one, provided the birds stop unexplicaby falling out of the sky!
Deep breaths, my friend! Prioritizing can do wonders for your anxiety. Once you focus on what is important, everything else falls into its rightful place.
Hope everything goes swimmingly with your surgery!Be well!
Love your goals!
Shell,
Thanks lady! I just figured if I don’t put pen to paper and organize my life, it’s going to run me. Quite frankly,I’m tired of my life running me. I’m going to show it who’s boss!
Happy New Year!
mine:
If you want me to write for you or work for you in any way you gotta pay me what I am worth and I'm worth quite a bit, thank you.
Bernthis,
AMEN to that!I just want to be able to write on a more public venue. I want to spread like wildfire:)
I'm getting published this year. For reals. I'm committed to that goal!
YOU go girl! That is awesome goal.Keep your eye on the prize!
This is great! I love it all. Happy New Year and happy new life!
Krysta,
I just want to THANK YOU for all of your sweet comments. EVerytime I see your name in my inbox, I know that days going to be good. You are so full of positivity and good juju! HUGS to you and the happiest of New Years!
Love it!!!!!!
Can't wait to read all about you making it happen!
Thank you! Stay tuned.Its gonna be a explosive year.I feel it!Like when the arm I broke when I was 13 hurts before it rains, I feel it in my bones:)
I resolve to embiggen myself so I can flee a job I no longer enjoy
KLZ< DO IT!!!(PS I had to look up the word embiggen.I hope that doesn't make you think any less of me:) I hope you blow up so big going after your bliss that you can leave the shackles of a job you hate far, far behind.Run like the wind, my friend!
Actually, one of my resolutions on my very short list is to stop aspiring to that perfection that will never come. I'm tired of being chained up by that. Start the revolution. I'm behind you, comrade.
Joann,
I’m with you perfection is an unattainable aspiration and it only sets us up for failure.Be the best you,mama!
I'm just going to try to get up and shower every day. I think my co-workers will be pleased.
Mommakiss,
Yes my Scandahoovian, cleaning is a good start.Everybody appreciates a little fresh air. Clean body, clean soul,love and light and all that bullshit:)
Incite a Revolution!!!! Oh, girl. How I wish we were next door neighbors. You are such an inspiration. And we could do great things together!!! I generally hate resolutions but I can get behind every. single. one. of these. You are hands down AWESOME. I adore you.
Naomi,
I have such bloggy love for you! You are such a great friend and you know how awesome I think you are too!
I wish we were neighbors, we could have the best time aspiring to greatness and dominating the world..all while our littles played peacefully together.well, thats the vision I have in my mind anyways:)
PS Your bloggy looks awesome!! Love the look!
Get it girl! I'm right there with you about making lists. I made a list of things to accomplish this week and crossed four of them off today. Let's do this!
Erin,
Im telling you, I could rule the world with a list!
Love it all! Here is to a new all of us!
Cheers to that!
I like these!The first three are dead on for me.
Betty,
Let’s do it! No time like the present to accomplish the goals we want in life. What are we waiting for? Do it!Deep breaths and lots of determination.You can do it!
I just want to tell you how much I love your enthusiasm. You rock, and I love reading your blog! Everything you do and everything you say stems from one thing: your love of your girls and your husband. And that is what is awesome and fantastic about you.
<3 reading!
Teresa
Teresa,
YOu have touched my heart with that comment! That is very sweet of you to say and it is so nice to hear that someone can see that through my posts. I am so glad that you are a reader of mine. I hope to get to know you better through this community! Happiest of New years to you!
These sound so much like my “resolutions.” I love the idea of embracing exhausting. I vow to work my butt off as soon as the kids go down for naps or for bed, but by that time the couch just looks so enticing!
Leigh Ann,
I know, its exhausting trying to wrangle babies. I think we need to prioritize a few things we want to get done each day ( aside from the baby wrangling) and try to hit those.Just remember, forgive yourself.Some days are harder than others.I knwo for certain, Thursdays in our house are a chore.So I set my expectations lower on that day.As for getting my workout and blogging done,Ive had to make concessions and get up a little earlier or stay up a little longer but I’m trying to get into a routine that is optimal for my health (Physical & mental) and allows me to be a good mom while pursuing my dream.In the end, isn’t that all any of us really want?
Happy Mothering!
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